Why

[Andisaysrawr14]

I feel like everytime I talk to someone like a friend I lose them. Then I feel all depressed about being a bad person and a jerk. Why do I feel like this ?

[rosey3216]

@Deana I couldnt agree more. Often times people with depression push people away without even realizing it. Me and my best friend all through high school both suffered from depression and for the first 2 years, we fought a lot. It took us a long time to figure out why that was.

[Deana1970]

I hsave a way of doing the same thing. I talked to my doc about this and he told me sometimes you can unintentionally push people away out of fear. Being afraid of being rejected can make some people come off as uncaring or harsh. I tend to isolate or ignore phone calls..not because I dont like someone but because I have this fear that if I let them in they will hurt me, or worse yet..I might grow attached to that friendship and be let down or they will not live up to my expectations...so I just put out this vibe I guess that comes out like I dont need friends or something...maybe you need to look at what you are putting out there and see if some things could be changed on your part to make youself more approachable and open to friendship....just a thought....I could be way off...but your question is one I just asked my doctor about ME.

[Bubulous]

Do you consider yourself to be a jerk?  What do you think you are doing to push them away?  Tell us more about yourself.  It is hard to make a determination based on little information.