Do you suffer when an anniversay looms or arrives? Or Christmas, or birthdays? Any anniversaries. I have just realised I've had one yesterday and today and it's knocked me flat. It's the day my ex, the dragon as I call her now, stole my kids and left me high and dry. No warning. I went to work that day, day after Father's Day, with all the normal stuff, not a whiff of anything and came home to an empty house. We were interstate at the time and she took everything and left me with.. a broken heart and an anger that has built every day since. She's never said a word about it, never apologised, never explained.
I have had contact with those kids but they aren't the kids I lost. One I can't talk with as we are both so angry, the other is okay but we can't ever talk about what happened. It's like 3 invalids in a hospital.
The main thing I get out of these memories are extreme sadness, indeed misery as I recall that night she left, the alone feeling and desperate need to know where they were. But the main feeling I have about all of that is rage and hate, for her. I haven't let myself be in the same State as her ever since for fear of what may happen and I am about to miss my daughter's wedding because of it. I was invited buit I explained to my daughter that if I went there'd be havoc, I couldn't control my anger if I was there. So I stay home.
I used to love memories, they were good and happy andheart warming but since D hit me they don't seem to exist, or are overwhelmed by this type of stuff.
How do you cope?