She has a boyfriend but i love her oh so much

[Another_Lonely_Day]

There is this girl at my church that i like alot. I am in a really depressed mood all the time because she isnt in my life. If she was mine i wouldnt be depressed. I really need to get her to like me and love me because i cant live without her. But she has a boyfriend what can i do????? =(

[whodunnit]

Sorry, but you are confusing your feelings. You are not feeling depression. The problem is simply you want a partner and either can't have the one you want or can't finf someone. That's called puberty usually.

It's time you learnt more about yourselves rather than hoping a partner will fix your feelings. They won't, you'll destroy them if you take that from them.

Learn to be strong and independent and then learn to give. Forget about the gym, that's superficial. Except for feeling fit.

Perhaps another forum might suit your interests more than this one as here it is about real depression. OK?

[boy0078]

i needddddd help

[boy0078]

she slowlly drive me crazy.i really like her more than myself.but any time i ask her to go out wid me she told me that she is busy i don t really know wht i should do !!!!!

[listen_to_me_brother]

man, i've been right where you are. it's not the funnest ride ever.  this relationship that you have with her is priceless. don't do anything that you may regret.  make sure you're always there for her. nothing will hurt her worse than if she sees you upset or mad at her for having a boyfriend. never give up hope either. you never know if she loves you too. you have to give her a chance to branch out. i learned that the hard way.  try to keep her in check, and don't let that friendship go. it's one of the most blessed things God could possibly give you.

[joseoso]

im 16 but i really need help

here it is
2 year ago i met a girl
she had all the qualities i need
ever since weve been really good friends we hang out go to the movies
and all that stuff
but lately i started having different fellings for her
i have been trying to ask her out but every time i try to i choke
and i dont say it
and just today right before i was about to ask her
she told me she had a boyfriend im not really sure what to think
i fell like its my foult for not telling her sooner
i have fallen in love with everyday we talk for hours and hours
she so nice to me she treats me like no other
but she has someone else

please tell me what to do

i feel really deppresed

[kiwi07]

bro i say get into the gym start getting in shape ,make sure ur always well gromed smelling nice chicks love good personal hygeine.
bro if she makes ur heart melt ur got find the way to hers go for it but never come across as desperate make her laugh and dont take things to serious. give it everything dont die woundering but take it from me theres plenty of fish in the sea but uve got to have ur heart broken atleast once it makes u stronger then u could ever imagine just go with the punches good luck player.

[kat1971]

I used to think "my life would be so perfect if I had a boyfriend".  I thought it would solve all of my depression issues and low self esteem issues.  To be wanted and loved was such an overpowering desire.  To not have it, sent me into major depression.  I wanted to die.

I met a man, and fell in love.  The first few months were so eurphoric.  Then when issues arose, as they always do in relationships, I couldn't cope with it.  The depression was even worse.. the frantic torment of a possible break up was too much to bare.

I agree with justlike you, (very sage advice).  You need to work on yourself, and work through your issues before entering a relationship.  Right now.. the grass is emerald green on the other side of this street, but once you cross over. without the right tools, without mending your broken heart, you can find yourself in an even more desperate situation.

I know when I hear "You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" .. I generally cringe because its so impossible for me to love myself.  I think "Can't I just skip that step".. lol  In reality, you really can't.

Please seek therapy, work through your issues.  I am not saying to give up on the dream of having what you want, but just do this too, so that if you get your dream.. you will be able to keep it.

Good luck

[Another_Lonely_Day]

Thanks, you actually kinda boosted my mood right now, can you please tell me more i can do because i am kinda amazing for only playing guitar for 2 years i am pretty good. Tell me more please i need her. (Or someone)

[justlikeyou]

you need to understand how amazing you are before anyone will be attracted to you.

learn to love yourself completely and then others will want to be with you.

as long as you 'need' someone else to make you happy,

you will be a drain on them, and they can tell that from a mile off, and will stay away.

enjoy and love yourself, your amazing, no-one is like you.