break up

[silkman]

i have just been told by my partner of 10 years that our relationship is over. we have a 5 year old daughter who doesn"t know yet. we haven"t been arguing, but things had gotten a little stale, both of us working full time we didn"t have much spare time to each other. since she told me i have sunk to the lowest depth, awful thoughts have been entering my mind in the sleepless hours. i cry constantly, i have no one to really talk to except my partner. it is making me seriously ill. what can i do?

[tara79]

it definetly helps to let yourself cry, i would also suggest talking to a counselor or a close friend so you can share your feelings of  grief out rather than bottling it up.  give yourself the kindness of time to feel this way, to mourn and feel the grief. things will change, and will be brighter. take care

[green eyed lady]

I know how you feel. It seems like this feeling will never go away and you cannot imagine yourself with someone else...what a bleak, depressing and dangerous feeling.

But please remember there is hope.

I know it's an old cliche but time really does heal...when I left my husband after 16 yrs. I was a mess. I missed my "old life" so much and I truly felt like there was no light at the end of the tunnel. However, as time went on I started to meet new people and do things that I wanted to do but never could and slowly but surely I started to heal. Believe it or not, my ex hubby and I are the best of friends and I could not ever go BACK to him. There was a time when I could've but I didn't want to.

At this time I am mourning another relationship that went bad and my ex hubby is one of my biggest supporters. I am hurting and I understand the obsessive thinking and the sleepless nights along with the constant crying. But I have something that I didn't have the last time and that's the knowledge that this too shall pass in time.

Right now you need to give yourself a break because in the begining it's such a shock...you need to feel the feelings, mourn your loss and then let go. I'm at the mourning stage right now and it sucks...but I do promise you it does get better. That's what keeps me going. I wish the best for you and your family.   E

P.S...I have been doing alot of writing. It's best for me to get the feelings out and the medhelp forum has been a Godsend for me. It's much easier to "talk" to strangers and I've seen how incredibly compassionate and wise everyone is.

[maybeidonotknow]

sorry to hear about what happened.writing can be therapeutic especially if someone listens.feel free to message  me bro.i am no pro but i can listen.willing to be a friend if you are.(or not it's ok if there is no reply)

[mayflowers]

It's very normal to go through a grieving process after a long relationship.  Let yourself cry and have some sleepless nights.  Eventually you will come out of this and be ready to live life again.