Mood Disorders

[Scuba45]

I have two young children and unfortunately I lost my father on January 2nd 2009 and my ex-husband from drowning on May 15th 2010.  I'm feeling very anxious, lonely and depressed and get a sick feeling in my stomach fpr fear of being lonely.  I presently live with my mom but I know too that she is suffering from her loss as well.  She's lost her friends due to the death of my father and unfortunately I never developed friends with my ex-husband due to his alcoholism.  What can I do for myself to get better?  I can't go on like this as it's not fair to my children.  

[gofio]

Get out & mix with those you can get on with. If you feel you have no friends then you must make an effort to get out & about in whatever way you can manage. If you have interests outside the home, go along to any club/societiy etc. If you can take an active part in life you'll soon benefit, try to think posive ~ Not easy, for sure, but give it a try. There are various types of help you can try. First place to  ask is your Doc. If you don't get along with him/her then ask for another. Probably your losses account for your condition, but you must move on. Wish you luck. George

[mammo]

Hi.  I am so sorry for your losses.  You need to see a psychiatrist for an evaluation and to determine what course of treatment would be best for you.  There are things that happen to us that can be too much for us to handle on our own, and that's okay.  There is so much help for you and you need to take advantage of it.  Your children have endured a lot and need you more than ever, let them be your driving force.  You need to get active, get involved in things at school with your kids, volunteer at their school, church, anything that gives you the opportunity to meet others. You will find love again one day, for now just concentrate on getting yourself in a better emotional state and making your children feel secure.  My husband passed away leaving me with 3 children ages 4, 2, and 1.  I had nobody to lean on, and I had to make it for my kids sake and everything I did was for them.  It wasn't easy, but I just kept putting one foot in front of the other moving forward. I eventually met and married a wonderful man who has always been a wonderful father to my kids. You have a lot of living to do, don't miss a moment of it.  You need to find happiness from inside and the rest will follow.  See a psychiatrist and go from there.  You're never alone, we're always here and care.  Start rebuilding your life for you and your children, you'll be too busy to think of anything else, until one day...love will find you!  Stay strong, it's difficult for us as adults to comprehend all of this, think of what your children are enduring and how confused they are.  I do wish you all the very best and write anytime.