mood disorders

[flygirl96]

Ive had severe depression ever since my husband passed away and cant seem to snap outta it.Ive been on every medication and 4-6diff psychiatrists and nothings worked.I have no energy,dont wanna get outta bed,lost my friends,house,filed bankruptcy, and thats just a few of the things it's caused me.I wanna try that brain zapping method EMT or whatever its called because Im so desperate and already lost 3years to this.Can you suggest anything I need help!!

[29sillygirl]

Deepest sympathy to you.  I has been a tough 3 years for sure.  Your plight  has generated lots of advice.  I personally don't feel qualified to say more.

All I will tell you, is that at age 74, and 4 months since one of my son's was murdered by my ex....I have had days like yours.   I live alone too. In small rented apt. Cat died 4 days before son.   So I think I understand.

  Saw a therapist  @ cancer hospital (am recovering from anal cancer) and she helped me more than anyone.   Grief counseling has to be available for you.  Meds may or may not help....but talking it out might relieve you. Everyone is different.

  

[therese83]

you are a person alone, he was your companion, you need to find yourself somehow again.

Focus on ways to find your independant spirit, take some risks.

I have done things i never thought i would do, go for it !

[therese83]

Bereavement counseling maybe ?

[ljean1975]

I am very sorry for your loss and I know what you are going thru, lost my husband in 09. Same financial issues occured prior to husband passing, then I had to sell our home at a great loss.  Please check with churches, even funeral homes offer grief counseling at off-site locations for group or private sessions.  I have  joined a group that meets once a week, will admit they are much older than I, but the insight and support they have is amazing.  Keep working at it, they all tell me it will take time. Try some gym/exercise class to make you go out and do something for yourself.  I have added this to my schedule since I get a little panic stricken living alone for the first time ever in my 51yrs of life. I has helped me tremendously in a small way, little steps at time. Meds... keep talking to your doc's. take care

[zzzmykids]

flygirl96,
There are different things that trigger a major depression. When you saw the four psychs, did any of them rule out bipolar or unipolar or manic depression? The lethargy might be due to the severe depression. Losing your husband is a critical stressor. Have you gone to a grief counselor or grief group?
Do you have family that can take over on paying the bills and managing your affairs?
I will tell you from loving and losing my Mom this year, I spent six months in bed. There is hope. I wanted the shock treatment but my psych, who I trust, does not want me to have it. When I wanted to go in the hospital, he called the family and said they needed to help him help me. I thought I could not get any deeper. I will tell you I have had depression since I was eleven years old and now 55 the medication works well since starting it at 42 but I still have bouts...and the one time I was off for a year and a half because they were "natural" meds, my life changed with my Mom passing and my husband needing surgeries, problems with my grown kids and friends. Once back on meds, life is normal. I will never go off meds, ever again. It was worth the try, but not for me.
Let me know if you have been diagnosed with what disorder, it really helps on what meds to take.

[AJ39]

I am soooo sorry about your loss and ofcourse the ecconomy is horrible. Are there groups where you live for survivors of a death of a loved one? Therapists are wonderful about how to cope with everyday life after a death. Is your family supportive? i agree with the transcranial magnetic stimulation option over the ECT. Keep writing to us, are you on antidepressant med now? keep in touch.

[paranoid_cataclysm]

Maybe you could opt for transcranial magnetic stimulation, it's supposed to be noninvasive and have less side effects than electroconvulsive therapy and work for depression in some people.