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[massvern]

I keep screwing things up.  I am scheduled for a hysterectamy in April.  I thought my boyfriend was gonna be here to support me, but he says I get too mad at him sometimes, I suppose I do but when something upsets me I like to let him know.  My family lives in another state.  I feel so alone.  I just want to give up and crawl in a hole.

[Alone32]

i know whats it like to be the one to screw things up all the time, i bet you feel that you can do no right. Its hard to change the way you think and feel. Start each day with a good thought, a good memory or even a happy tune in your mind or on your lips. I bet your boyfriend does not know what to do because a man can never go through what you are about to, its a terrible thing for you to have to happen, I am sorry you have to go thrugh it.  he might be scared of upsetting you or as you said making you angry. I bet all he wants to do is give you a hug and tell you he will be there for you aand he loves you dearely. I know its easy for me to say but be patient and i hope your operation goes well and i hope you and your boyfriend will be well together.

[Jibs1]

Oftentimes we get mad at those who we are closest with .....

[Anneinside]

I had a hysterectomy around 1996 and had no problems. Yes, there is some pain and it is difficult to get up from a chair and bed. Take it easy and baby yourself and you'll be okay. I was alone when I had mine.

[massvern]

Thanks for caring.

[FreeToBe81]

Hi, I am so sorry to hear of your troubles.  I too feel I keep screwing up everything then feel so guilty for not having control. You're definitely not alone. Focus on the good things in life, I know it sounds stupid, but seriously think of the good things each day and that will help feel a little better. Take care!