Why won't my husband keep a job and what can I do?

[fearfactor]

I have seriously considered divorcing my husband because of his lack of ability to keep a job.  He either gets fired from or quits every job he gets, some very good ones.  I am working right now, but don't make very much and we have two children. He quit a very good job he had last week because the boss "disrespected" him - he just WALKED off the job, again a good-paying one, not easy to come by in our economy, because of this.  With the holidays coming, our kids needing things, etc.  I am very depressed about this and don't know quite what to do.  I have tried talking to him about it but every time he just blows up and says I only think of him as a paycheck, he wouldn't get mad at me for getting fired (yeah right), etc.  What can I do before this marriage ends?  Today is our 6 year anniversary and I don't want to scrap an otherwise OK marriage due to this issue.  And we CAN'T afford counseling because of no insurance - how can you afford medical insurance or out of pocket counseling when hubby won't work?  Thanks for all advice.

[lost_in_the_city]

peace and love!!

[dove3053]

We only know what you post about yourself and your situation. From your last post you sound anything but porfessional. No need to lash out at everyone because I posted something that offended you.

Dove

[fearfactor]

You know jack **** about me - people can be abused and still be professionals.  I'm sorry I ever posted on here because obviously the people are all jerks.  

[dove3053]

I'm having second thoughts about fearfactor. I wonder now if those posts are real too. Fearfactor just posted and said she is an attorney. That sounds weird to me.

I stand corrected.

Dove

[dove3053]

I think this post is real. She is just having trouble making her mind up as to what to do. She is not happy but then is afraid to leave because she doesn't know what will happen. I think things will get worse and she will still be there and something very bad may happen. I think she is a battered woman and many stay in a relationship until they are forced to leave by extreme violence.

I was one of these woman. I always hoped that things would get better but they never did. They just got worse. I finally got a restraining order and divorced him and never looked back. At least I try not to.

Dove

[fearfactor]

Why yes, it's real....I am as real as can be and sitting right here now!!  In the first post, I was just at my wit's end over that particular issue but the other issues have always been in the background.  What is up is that I'm trying to decide whether to try to salvage this marriage and I am just weighing pros & cons.  Believe me, I wish this post was fake and I had a loving husband!  LOL!!

Thanks, everyone for your advice - I have not yet completely decided what to do but have gotten back in touch with some friends and family who are supportive and are helping me in this hard time.