Hi Paula. Yes, getting ashes sometimes can be cathartic and strangely comforting. It was the same with me with my beautiful lurcher BB. I took a week or so, but ultimately scattered her ashes on the beach near to where we live, as that was her favourite place to go running, which she did often. As for welcoming another best friend into your life ... well, do it when you feel right about it. It will never be Prince, or a replacement for Prince, and the truth is all dogs are so different, each with their own personalities, quirks and emotional make-up. Whenever you decide the time is right, the new dog you get will sure be a lucky boy or girl, because they will have the best life any dog could have.
My BB passed away last November and I am only now feeling the time is right to welcome another rescue into our home - not just for us but for our remaining 7 yr old dog Giro, who misses having another canine to interact with.
I hope as the days become weeks, you start to feel better, and hopefully will be able to smile about Prince's wonderful life without tears coming to your eyes. Grief is different for everyone, but it always takes its own time to work through. Best wishes, Tony
Thank you Tony, Connie & Karla,
It has been a diffiult week, but has been better the last few days. I picked up his ashes yesterday and for some reason, it brought me comfort.
I do have some regrets, but they are only for me. I know that I did the right thing at the right time for Prince. My vet wrote a note to me, I found it in the bag with Princes ashes, telling me that I did the right thing, and that I always did right by Prince.
I miss him so, and find myself lost, looking for things to do. My whole day revolved around taking care of him. I am also debating how soon to get another baby. Everyone tells me it will help in the healing process, which I do believe. I just don't want to put unfair expectations on a new dog, because Prince was truly the most well behaved dog.
Thank you all for the love and support. It has helped me get through this difficult time.
Hello Paula. Just like Karla and Connie, your posts brought a lump to my throat and tears to my eyes. This is so very hard. Prince had the most wonderful mum, someone who did all that was possible to give him the best life any dog could have. He was lucky to have you share his experiences, his good and bad days, and everything inbetween. You were so brave to do the right thing when the time came to do it, and I know only too well how tough it must have been to reach that decision and to have done the dreadful deed. It was the right thing to do - at the right time. Not for you, but for Prince. My heart goes out to you. There is no grief so raw and so tough as the grief we have when we lose our best friends. But in time, it does get better, and we can be reassured knowing our loved ones are no longer suffering. Cyberhugs are all I can give you ... Tony x
My heart aches for and with you Paula. The loss of our dogs is devastating.
It changes our whole world. I sit here with tears in my eyes, a lump in my throat, and an ache in my heart. I feel your pain, because I have experienced it so many times, most recently with my little TwoBits. She has been gone since September...I still cry all too often, ( like now ) but things have gotten easier for me to accept.
Our live's will never be the same without those we love...we just need to be strong, and know we only did what we did, because we only always wanted what was best for them.
Rest assured, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Connie
Karla and Connie,
Thank you so much for the condolences. I am in shock by how much this hurts. It hurts worse than when I lost my Dad. The only relief I get is sleep. Please pray that I have relief soon, because it is unbearable right now.
Paula
Paula,
It made me so sad to read about Prince. I certainly do understand how very much you are hurting now, and how much you miss him. Prince was in good hands with you. You did everything you could for him. He was such a lucky dog to spend his life in the company of people who love him so very much.
Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.
God Bless Prince's Beautiful Spirit and Soul. He is much loved.
Connie