Just stay away from ear candles, which are dangerous quack baloney. There are some ear wax softening/removing products that are safe. Check your pharmacy.
I don't know what is causing your ear wax, but here's something funny for you. I knew somebody who insisted that her ear wax production went way up every time she drank beer.
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Use this stuff