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Do any of u feel like some of ur relatives are rubbing it in ur face u cant have kids? i swear i was being nice i decided to go to my hubbys nices bday (her first one) i even bought gifts and everything then when i go there the whole party is decorated in the theme that i wanted to do for my baby if i ever have one!!! i was really mad!! my sil didnt do the nursey theme or anything in it but still why did she have to pick what i wanted for the birthday. Man it kinda made me feel like **** like every1 is beating me to the punch and when i do have kids if ever im not gonna have anything left to pick. GRRR!! Just venting!!!
omg Kah i am so srry *hugs* i think i would have done the same thing but knowing me i would have starting running away right at the moment.
My DH and I were so upset... I just went home and started crying.
omg i am so srry i would have been so upset and mad if that had happened to me i would not want the entire world to know i couldnt have kids!! Man doesnt that just wanna make u scream outloud why do i look pregnant do u think im fat or what and dont u think if i was i would have said something by now GRRR some peeps are so rude!!!
Hi All,
I post this in your other forum by mistake..
I hope you don't mind me joining in. I can understand your frustrating. I'm almost on my third year of TTC. This is my 4th IVF and these are some of the things we hear. I get from my father at times all your sisters got pregnant easily, why can't you it must be a mental thing. A few of my other family members including some from my DH side say it's because you are stressed and you are doing this to yourself I just want to scream and cry at the same time. My DH and I went to my neices Bat Mitvah and while calling family members up she says on a microphone in front of about 150 people saying I would like to bring up my Aunt and Uncles who don't have children, but I love you anyway. Oh my god... sorry just venting also. I know she was only 13, but I'm sure her parents knew what she was going to say before she said it. The thing I hear the most is are you pregnant, yet....
I post this in your other forum by mistake..
I hope you don't mind me joining in. I can understand your frustrating. I'm almost on my third year of TTC. This is my 4th IVF and these are some of the things we hear. I get from my father at times all your sisters got pregnant easily, why can't you it must be a mental thing. A few of my other family members including some from my DH side say it's because you are stressed and you are doing this to yourself I just want to scream and cry at the same time. My DH and I went to my neices Bat Mitvah and while calling family members up she says on a microphone in front of about 150 people saying I would like to bring up my Aunt and Uncles who don't have children, but I love you anyway. Oh my god... sorry just venting also. I know she was only 13, but I'm sure her parents knew what she was going to say before she said it. The thing I hear the most is are you pregnant, yet....
Man ur sil is mean!! i was worried bout that too but my dh says oh dont worry our baby is going to be the smallest and cutest!! so maybe try to think like i do when ur baby is newborn and cute and cuddly her kid will walking around and be ignored while ur baby gets all the attention lol!! i thought my sil wasnt so bad cus she never said nothing the whole time she was prego not even that she was i had to ask her she never said when she had appts or what the baby was or nothing (i think she got mad baby was another girl) but after this party now i know not to say anything else to her to keep my yap shut!! if ur sil's BF is still married she should wait for the divorce to be final i was still legally married too when i met my new hubby i didnt take B/C cus i knew bout my infertility but we didnt officially say ok we're TTC till just this past november and that was like a week after our 1yr wedding anniversary.
i do feel that way sometimes... my sister, sil, best friend, and dh's best friend all just had babies - that in itself rubs it in my face... but my sil is the worst... she told me once that she was ttc (and her bf is still married!!) b/c she didn't want us to "beat her to it" b/c the first grandkid in the family would get the most attention - she wanted her baby to get the most attention I guess... i thought that was pretty rude and hurtful... especcially since she knew we had gone through 2 m/c...
oh i know i hate that so much i was already mad bout the party thing then my dh's aunt ask if we want kids and i just walk off cus there is nothing i can say to explain what we are going through. he thinks i dont understand cus i dont speak in spanish but i always know when they say something bout me. i totally understand what ur saying i hate it when peeps ask arent u trying? you get so mad u just wanna so no im just hoping to be the virgin mary and have one w/out doing that!!
I know how you guys are feeling!! My family doesn't know that we are ttc but everytime we go to visit my parents my mother is always mentioning something about having a baby. I get so frustrated but I don't want to tell them that we are trying.
TY so much!! im sorry for u too that happened to me too i love the name alex and when my cousin had her baby 2yrs ago she gave him that middle name and my hubby lil cousin is named alex so i wont be using the name.
I know it is hard when that happens. Friends of mine called their baby the name we have had picked out ages ago. They didn't know we were having ttc troubles or that it was the name we had wanted but.... that didn't make it hurt any less:( I think sometime things seem worse than they really are when your going through a tough situation(like ours) Keep your chin up:)
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