Sending you lots of luck. Our Dr's can say one thing but honestly they really can only give there best guess on what they feel is best direction for you.
I am 38 & have had 4 failed IVF's. I am moving on to Donor Eggs
In my opinion if you are going to pay for the cycle then I would think about also doing Donor. If you have insurance......they by all means GO FOR IT!!!
Truly wishing you the best of luck.
I don't really have any advice for you.... But... I wanted to wish you Good Luck! Have you spoken to an RE yet?