Just not feeling it this month...still try?

[usuk]

Hi there. Not feeling sad or depressed or anything, but just feel like a little voice inside me is saying it's not going to happen. Kinda like you know if you don't make the effort with a friend or a boyfriend or job or whatever that it will just go away. That it's the effort you put in that keeps it going although it should end. Could me that my biz partner had her baby today but I am not crying, just feeling it's not in the cards.

[ita17]

I'm right there  w/ya;)  I guess since we will be bd'n during my "window" it's "ttc" but I'm NOT going to the RE's, & even though it was only 3 months of that stuff for me, it seemed like FOREVER! & it's just SOOOOO stressful!  
Don't give up, or loose hope;-/  But just take a mental break from it all!  I feel a lot better these days, better than I was the past few months...I REALLY DO HAVE A LIFE, LOL!  I'm not thinking 24/7 about EVERYTHING!
Hang in there;)
xxxx's
laura

[Breezy300]

I just want you to know that the scientific odds are really against me. My RE gives me only a 1% chance of conceiving. I tried long enough with my AMA (43) and high FSH levels that I finally started to believe that it could never happen for me. My DH and I stopped going to the clinics and relied soley on the CBEFM to tell us when to do the BD. We continued doing it, but I became more and more accepting of the idea that it just wasn't going to happen. Well, on Oct 14, I got a BFP! The unhappy ending is that my hCG levels dropped two days later and I've now M/Ced. But I DID get pg, even though I pretty much thought I never would. Now I have hope that I can again!

Also, the book Inconceivable tells the story of another woman in her 40s with high FSH levels and her journey to getting pg. She also became discouraged and on the night she was Oing she just wanted to go to sleep. But her DH says, "Well, we have to try," and--you guessed it--they conceived a baby girl on that night!

I know you're feeling discouraged, but the only way you even have a chance at getting pg is to keep trying. If at all possible, try not to put so much pressure on yourself but to instead simply enjoy the BD. You never know what might come of it...

Hope you're feeling better soon. :)

[Quinns momma]

I got pregnant on a 2 month ttc break. Maybe stepping back from all of the ttc hoopla will give you much needed rest and relaxation. You will get back into the game with a renewed sense of purpose. Or like many of us get a BFP when it is least expected. :)

[wanabb]

I'm a true believer that if you believe it will happen it will, if you don't feel it a break might be a good idea.  I haven't  had that feeling in a few months so i'm currently taking a month off.  I hate to say it but it's great, I don't have to count anything or pee on anything, no stress.  Maybe i'm naive but i think our mind has a lot more control over our body than we even know.  try to stay positive and do what you know is right for you, good luck it will happen...

[SueGre]

I think taking a break can be helpful. We took a break for 2 months and I came back feeling positive and encouraged. I wish I could easily follow my own advice, but do everything you possibly can to NOT think about ttc. Pay attention to when you O and that's it. I am SUCH a hypocrite, because I can't do this myself. I'll tell you, though, the one time I got pg was when I stopped thinking about it all together. The only reason I was able to do this was because I had decided to take a break from ttc to go to the gym, lose some weight, and get healthier body for a baby to grow in. So, I didn't really think about it because I thought I was going with the new plan. We did it ONCE, and that's all it took.