Baby Blues

[babyhope1]

My best friend had her baby yesterday and I am happy for her.  Our other friend called to tell me and when I saw her name on the caller ID I didn't answer knowing that is why she called.  The friend that called is prego, 4 other good friends are too and I am the only one from our group at college (10 years later) that is barron.  I haven't called her back, I usually back off after a birth to let the new family do their thing, take naps etc.  At the same time I know it will be too much of an emotional conversation congratulating her on something I can't have and have failed at more than 9 times since she told me.  Plus the pills and hormones in my body only prove to make me cry.  I am not sure what to do, I was thinking of just sending a gift and forgetting about trying to have a phone conversation.  She lives 2,000 miles away anyway.  

[dnikki0928]

I know that it's hard, especially when it seem that everyone around you is getting p/g or having kids (my sister -in-law is p/g with twins - naturally, and my family doesn't let me forget. I am happy for them and all and wish them the best of luck...)but I think you should call and give her a congrats. Especially if you guys have been friends for this long. You may tear up but it's OKAY. I just tell myself that I'm glad this person in my life didn't have to suffer with this. I hate seeing so many women on this forum, and we are all going through the same thing.  But, I know it's hard, but at the same time this may be a time where your friend may really need you.

Good luck... Hugs :)

[rene67]

I'm sorry this is so hard for you.  I guess its "lucky" she is so far away.  Send a gift, and if you feel able, a card with a nice note in lieu of a phone call.  I think she will understand not calling...you could always say you thought she'd be a bit busy for a call.

I understand how you feel about friends having babies while you're still trying, I've only tried 3 times but all m/c so far.  My sister is prego w/#2 now (see my previous post) and there is really no good way for me to deal with that other than be supportive.