Pregnant at 41. THE REAL QUESTION

[johnasse]

Is it possible to get feedback from women who have experiences with pregnancy at 41 or after? The first few posts.. were great, but then the focus was lost ... Not looking for opinions on God, just info on having babies after 40. Thanks to all women responding on this issue....

[Chitty58]

The 41 year old mom, which birth defect test you take?  I think I'm choosin the screen rather then the other amnio????????

[LisaRG]

41 is a great age to have a baby.  I had a healthy one at 41.  Its a lot of work, but it keeps me young.

[Chitty58]

I am 41 and I just found out that I am 3 weeks pregnant. I am very excited but nervous.  I have a wonderful daughter that is 16 years old and a wonderful guy to share this moment with but with the amnio testing, down syndrome and birth defects it just scares the heck out of me and I'm wondering should I even take those test or just keep the faith??????????

[cminamyer]

My DH's mother had him when she was 40.  He was born in '77.  She didn't have any tests, he's heathy, and we are now having our second girl.  His mom is almost 71 now and loves being a grandma.  She had 4 other kids before DH though.  The only thing with her pregnacy is that he was a big baby. 9lbs 10oz, it wasn't a problem though she still had him vag.  Good luck!

[Savanha]

WOW...I can understand being afraid of caring for a child on your own, but realize that although "he definitely wants to have an abortion"...the decision you make will affect only your life/mind/spirit & emotions. Also, if you don't have any children, you may want them one day & all you have to do is review some of the threads on fert forum to see how difficult it can be to conceive...it comes w/ much heartache...some of it undescribable. I'm sending wishes of encouragement to you.

Savanha

[eternidad200]

I am 38 started  ttc about 3 years ago bc felt that before I needed working on my career, now I am ready with a house, car, good husband and ready but have been struggling with the whole fertility issue. I just recently 10/21 had a frozen  embryo transfer using my last embryos so I hope this is it.
I agree we should have something for ladies like us.
Good luck to all.