Thinking about using an egg donor- a sibling

[B74]

Has anybody used an egg donor? I am thinking about using my sister. We are going in on the 23rd for testing. Any feedback? Have had four failed IVF's and two failed IUI with my own eggs. I do not produce eggs and two doctors told me to get a donor. I am 36 and my husband and I are ready to move on to the next step... I think....

[mhv]

That's awesome news that your sister is starting your meds!  I am going to work for free this year too! : )   Yippee!  But, it will be worth it if we get our babies right?

[Kricket212]

What does maximum capcity mean?  The adoption agency is already full with people trying to adopt??

[B74]

Trying: I think most states do not need a lawyer for a sperm donor we did not use a sperm donor, but I think that is the case. It depends on you state.
My insurance covered nothing. I basicly worked for free last year and this year again my whole salary will go to the donor cycle and the IVF we did in Feb of this year.
Good luck and let me know if you have anymore questions. My sis starts meds tonight.

Mariana: Great news, I know a long process. Longest month of our lives.
Keep us updated

[mhv]

Good luck in your journey.  I, too, am on the verdge of giving up, but hoping a IVF refund program is an answer (100% refundable with donor eggs).  This has to be the toughest thing I have ever had to face.  I keep thinking I can walk away...but the hole in my heart is just toooo big!

It depends on if you go through a the RE clinic or an embryo agency if you need a lawyer or not.  Some RE's have their own donor bank for embryos.  I'm not sure on the sperm donation.. I used a friend as my donor the first time, didn't need a lawyer.  The new clinic I'm looking at has a egg donor program, so won't need one for them either.  But, if we decide to go to a Embryo Center, then we would need one.

Again... good luck to you, if you need to talk.... drop me a message!  

[trying2conceive]

Is it necessary to get a lawyer when getting egg or sperm donor?

It's been a few months since I've last been on here. I thought not having to go through any treatments and not being on this site would alleviate some pain and emptiness. It only keeps getting harder. My DH and I have also considered adoption. Unfortunately, we were turned away from the first meeting we showed up to due to maximum capacity...un-friggin'-believable!!!

[Mariana101]

AWESOME!!!
Im just waiting and waiting! OMG!!! finishing with the lawyer next week and then God knows what!! It takes time. I think by June or July I will have the transfer. Thanks for asking Kricket:)

[Kricket212]

So excited for you.
Mariana how are things goign for you?

[B74]

Hi Everybody:
My sister was approved. I start meds this week and my sister starts meds in 2 weeks.
I hope everything goes well and she produces some good eggs and they take.
Good luck to everybody!
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[Mariana101]

Your doctor is right about not transfering more than 2 eggs. Those eggs are GOOD so the likelyhood of implantation is very high!!! Have faith. They will do two for me as well.

Have a good trip:)

Mariana

[mhv]

I am so happy that everything is a go!  I knew it would be! : 0 )   Let your success begin!!!!

[B74]

I meant to type great news Lynda, sorry Mariana. BUT I know you will have great news soon!
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[B74]

Great news Mariana.
My sister's tests will be back in two weeks, so if everything is good we can start in April or  May. We will see, fingers crossed.
The social worker talked to all four of us. He said we had everything is in order.

Mariana:
I thought it was weird that they said they would only transfer two eggs from my sister too. She is 31.
He said the likely hood of more than only baby is high, but I thought, ok, I have been over so much, so why would not they put in more, so increase my chances, but he said no.
The % is like 60ish for getting preggers and like 55ish for live birth. I guess that is still good...
Going for a work trip for a week. Catch up with you all when I return.
Good luck to all the mommies to be out there... I will be thinking of you all.
Thanks for letting me vent on here, means a great deal.
Take care.
B-

[mhv]

Thanks for sharing!  : )   We LOVE to hear success stories!  I helps us all hold on the the fact that we will become pregnant someday soon!

[lynda544]

I got pregnant after the first try. I was very lucky. They transfered 2. I initially was pregnant with triplets (1 embryo split), but only 1 heartbeat developed. I picked a donor that looks a lot like me. Very easy pregnancy. Taylor is very healthy, active and the joy of our lives.

[Mybabypooh]

Hi, I was going to use my sister as a donor but she got pregnant..LOL.. I moved on to an unknown donor. I am now 23 week preggo and can't wait to meet my little girl!

[mhv]

Good luck today!  I'm sure everything will work out : )    BFP... Here you come : )

[B74]

I agree too, and at least my husbee will be the father, and that is nice thing. We would like to have that if possible, but if this does not work regular adoption is still a possible thing.
Our apts is in the AM and my sister gets tested, wish us luck!! Update you all soon.
B-

[Mariana101]

Did it work the first time? How many eggs did you transfer? Im very curious!!!

[lynda544]

I used an egg donor due to my age. Taylor is 18 months old now and she is such a joy. I too would be happy to answer any questions. I have two biological boys also and I can safely safe my love/connection for her is just as strong.

[Mariana101]

I know some people do embryo adoption but my RE thought it was better to do egg donor (at least your hubby is the father) since the embryo adoption are frozen eggs that the person did not use for maybe some reason (quality, etc). However, you can get a good embryo to adopt and some women in this forum have twin babies that way!!! It is a matter of luck. At the end we all want the same thing: a child to hold and love !!!!

[B74]

Hi: i understand what you are saying and i think that is a great option. But adopting an embryo, you still have to explain and I think it is the same, but with my sister, the baby will have similar genes as me. I think it up to parent to share or not share the background to the child down the road and we would want to explain to he or she where they came from, gene wise.
I am lucky to  have a sister that will do that and it a cheaper than me buying an eggs but not as inexpensive as adopting an embryo.
I think its great that we all have these options!
Good luck to everybody.

[Mariana101]

I found my donor at an agency and the lawyers just need to talk to me, fax/email me things and that's it. They have done those fertility/egg donor documents many times. My egg donor is also using them so it's easy. My agency recommended them to me and I saw them once in an RESOLVE forum talking about the egg donor process and what to expect. It was a long day seminar explaining everything so I know what is coming and the steps I need to do. My doctor is also very helpful and the fertility clinic has a coordinator just for egg donor IVF. It should be ok, it just takes about four months to finaly get your BFP:) I hope:). The lady at the egg donor agency is a sweetheart and really helpful as well.

Wish youi luck to all of you!!!!!

[mysty2001]

How about adopting embryos!  You would be doing a good deed and saving money.  Also, no need for long explanations about the aunt momm later in life!

[mhv]

ha ha!  i know, since we used a donor, I went in the room with him.  Very interesting!  But yep, there are so many thing about this that takes the "fun" out of concieving.  But we have to do them right?  They did ICSI on our embies.  We have 11 frosties left.  We had 19 to start with.  I just pray that this time works!  I am soooo ready to be a mom!!!
Oh, and since I knew my donor.... there is one part they have to do where they answer about 700 questions to make sure they are sane I guess, lol.... She said some of the questions were like..... 1.do you like flowers?, 2.do you like to paint flowers?, 3.do you want to plant flowers? and even odder questions... I went and waited on her while she took it, it took her about 1 or a little longer to take. She texted me a couple of the questions while she was in there... pretty funny!
We didn't have to use a lawyer, but we sure had to sign a lot of paperwork!  Maybe laws from state to state are different.   It is truly a wonderful thing this ladies do for us!   Amazing and selfless!!!!