Thinking about using an egg donor- a sibling

[B74]

Has anybody used an egg donor? I am thinking about using my sister. We are going in on the 23rd for testing. Any feedback? Have had four failed IVF's and two failed IUI with my own eggs. I do not produce eggs and two doctors told me to get a donor. I am 36 and my husband and I are ready to move on to the next step... I think....

[lynda544]

I used an egg donor due to my age. Taylor is 18 months old now and she is such a joy. I too would be happy to answer any questions. I have two biological boys also and I can safely safe my love/connection for her is just as strong.

[Mariana101]

I know some people do embryo adoption but my RE thought it was better to do egg donor (at least your hubby is the father) since the embryo adoption are frozen eggs that the person did not use for maybe some reason (quality, etc). However, you can get a good embryo to adopt and some women in this forum have twin babies that way!!! It is a matter of luck. At the end we all want the same thing: a child to hold and love !!!!

[B74]

Hi: i understand what you are saying and i think that is a great option. But adopting an embryo, you still have to explain and I think it is the same, but with my sister, the baby will have similar genes as me. I think it up to parent to share or not share the background to the child down the road and we would want to explain to he or she where they came from, gene wise.
I am lucky to  have a sister that will do that and it a cheaper than me buying an eggs but not as inexpensive as adopting an embryo.
I think its great that we all have these options!
Good luck to everybody.

[Mariana101]

I found my donor at an agency and the lawyers just need to talk to me, fax/email me things and that's it. They have done those fertility/egg donor documents many times. My egg donor is also using them so it's easy. My agency recommended them to me and I saw them once in an RESOLVE forum talking about the egg donor process and what to expect. It was a long day seminar explaining everything so I know what is coming and the steps I need to do. My doctor is also very helpful and the fertility clinic has a coordinator just for egg donor IVF. It should be ok, it just takes about four months to finaly get your BFP:) I hope:). The lady at the egg donor agency is a sweetheart and really helpful as well.

Wish youi luck to all of you!!!!!

[mysty2001]

How about adopting embryos!  You would be doing a good deed and saving money.  Also, no need for long explanations about the aunt momm later in life!

[mhv]

ha ha!  i know, since we used a donor, I went in the room with him.  Very interesting!  But yep, there are so many thing about this that takes the "fun" out of concieving.  But we have to do them right?  They did ICSI on our embies.  We have 11 frosties left.  We had 19 to start with.  I just pray that this time works!  I am soooo ready to be a mom!!!
Oh, and since I knew my donor.... there is one part they have to do where they answer about 700 questions to make sure they are sane I guess, lol.... She said some of the questions were like..... 1.do you like flowers?, 2.do you like to paint flowers?, 3.do you want to plant flowers? and even odder questions... I went and waited on her while she took it, it took her about 1 or a little longer to take. She texted me a couple of the questions while she was in there... pretty funny!
We didn't have to use a lawyer, but we sure had to sign a lot of paperwork!  Maybe laws from state to state are different.   It is truly a wonderful thing this ladies do for us!   Amazing and selfless!!!!