can someone tell me why ivf didnt work for me

[bobandjane]

hi im 23 years old i did ivf because im married for 5 years and i have been trying ever since so i went to a wonderfull dr in ca and i told him i dont want to wait i want a baby asap so he told me to try ivf i did and it didnt work i have pcos and a tshape uteris i did all my meds right i ate right and im young i just dont understand why it didnt work me us also my embryo was a 10 cell now im trying fet i have 2 left hope it work someone please help

[chrissypraying4hope]

Hi how many times have u tryed ivf?? Never give up hope. Me and the hubby have been together for 14 years and we have been trying for a baby for over 10 with no luck what so ever we then tryed ivf and it worked first time, i know how hard it is and please have hope. Sending tons of baby dust..

[j_ttc1year]

yeah .. IVF doesn't work the first time for everybody .. my RE says .. you have a 90% chance of success, in 3 tries .. if you are able to produce embryos of reasonably good quality. . I wish you good luck with your next attempt !

[bobandjane]

thankx i need all the luck i can get right now. i feel like im on a rollercoster and when i found out it didnt work i cryed so much i still cry thinking about it

[bobandjane]

i tryed only once now im trying f.e.t. hope it works i feel like i dont have that fight in me but i dont want to give up

[pol79princess]

I'm assuming that was your first treatment of any sort ever? As much as IVF is a great option for infertile women, it does not come with a 100% success rate. The consolation is it was your first try only! We would all want it to work asap, but, honestly, it rarely happens that way. I did 4 IUIs and could not believe that they failed over and over again when everything looked good, I responded well etc. I'm in the process of doing an IVF, and, of course, I'm also hoping for the best! Keep your head up and good luck! :)

[kris71]

So sorry to hear it didn't work but you have so much on your side being so young. Keep trying. It will happen!

[Marietta2000]

Firstly, I'm so sorry you're having to do IVF at such a young age!!  It's no fun, and it's not what most of us dream of when thinking of conceiving a baby.  But, please try and put things into perspective, it was only your first cycle, and even though every negative result is a massive disappointment, after having so much invested, try not to become too despondent!!  
It really seems a mystery as to why so many seemingly perfect embryos don't result in a pregnancy once transferred to the uterus.  Most of the doctors blame it on the egg quality, but I really don't think it is as easy as this, and it seems that IVF has a long way still to go, in perfecting so many of the tiny processes it takes to create a successful pregnancy.
I have a 4yr old son, conceived first try natural IUI.  I also have a 1yr old daughter, conceived IUI with drugs.  I've had trouble with conceiving my third child, and have had my first failed IVF cycle in January.  One 'beautiful', 'perfect' 8-cell embryo was transferred on Day 3, but sadly, no pregnancy resulted.  I am now undergoing my second IVF, using the antagonist protocol.
I just want to add, and please don't get offended, as I'm sure you're told this so many times, but I do want to say I have so many friends who have PCOS and have children, so please don't give up - it's not impossible at all!!  You mention a Tshape uterus - what does this mean - does it affect your chances of conceiving?

All the best to you!  Don't give up until you have your baby in your arms!  

[Redhenful]

I dont know why mine didnt work either..
I had 2 super good quality day 5 blasts... the embryologist even told me that these were going to get me pregnsant..
Well..nope..
The IVF nurse said IVF is just always a chance... you never really know if its going to take or not...

[bobandjane]

my dr said my tshape means it will be hard for me to carry twins so im trying for one baby i want it so bad but i cant help feel sad all the time and i like coming on here and talking to you all it helps

[Marietta2000]

I have a tiled uterus, but apparently that is very common, and shouldn't affect pregnancy.  A friend of mine has what she called a 'horn' (I think that's right) uterus.  I'm not sure if that's the same as what you have, I think maybe something different.  
Dealing with infertility is one of the worst things to do through.  I have two children, but I still do feel really distraught at not being able to get pregnant again.  Coming on here does help though, reaching out to others going through the same emotions and problems.  
I really hope the next transfer is the one for you!!!  You are young, so your eggs should be really good, so keep the faith!  I'm sure I'll be reading of your BFP very soon :0)

[bobandjane]

i am trying so hard i feel like i want to give up but im hanging in there i hope all this hard work works out for me and for others

[Marietta2000]

We all feel the same way, this journey is not at all easy.  Try not to despair too much, as I'm so sure you will have success.  This is such an emotional roller-coaster, and we're all here for you, and for each other, so hang in there!!!!  I pray things work out for you soon:0)

[Red2282]

Did you try anything before IVF?  What alternatives did you consider?  If you have it to do all over again would you go straight to IVF and why?  My husband and I are considering IVF but not sure how to make the choice.  Would help to undersand the process you went through.  Thanks!

[ummansoor]

This was my 4th time at IVF and it has failed for me. My doctors were very realistic with me and informed me that success rate of IVF was 40%. The chances are very slim and you are not the only one Hun. IVF is a repeating process for many and only once for the lucky ones. Keep aiming high and don't give up hope.

[dorti]

Hi, I am 39 YO. I am married for 17 years and and was trying to conceive natural way for at least last 12 years. I never used any birth control protection, no bc pills, etc. So last year we decided to go straight to ivf procedure (because of my age- not too much time left for IUI).  Since May 2009 I did three fresh IVF cycles - all failed.  We had four frozen embryos from the last ivf. This year in January we trf two frozen embryos (only two survived the thawing). And now I am 17weeks pregnant with twins! Do not loose ypur hope, if you have a chance, opportunity (and money or good insurance) go for it! Good luck to all of you who are still trying and those who are already pregnant.