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I'm not throwing in the towel just yet!
So I decided to postpone the hysterectomy....and give it one last shot! I'm very excited because I really had to talk this guy into doing what I wanted, and especially excited because once I got him to agree, the next hurdle was that my insurance probably won't cover it - but then I sat down with their insurance person and was blown away by their out of pocket price!!
Basically, we just sold our house and are closing around July 23, and losing my first home that we worked so hard on for the past five years AND losing my uterus in the same month would just be way too much for me to handle. I decided that I could not make peace with losing my uterus until I put in one last fight, and had the right people fix me up properly beforehand. The problem is, I just don't think I have another IVF or IUI in me - I just think with all the pressure that it would be my official very last try for the rest of my life, I just think it would be doomed from the stress of that from the start.
I really wanted him to do ovarian drilling, which would help align my hormones that are messed up from my PCOS, and will hopefully get me to ovulate on my own afterwards. I realize in some cases it doesn't work, but I respond really well to clomid and the injectables, so I'm hoping it will be all I need. That way I can try again possibly several times the old fashioned way! I can hardly even imagine it!!
In my first meeting with this specialist he refused to do the drilling, because I have issues with pain and he said I'd be risking scarring on my ovaries and having to remove those too down the line for pain. It is a risk I am willing to take. It is only a risk, and from what I've read, there is a chance that even if they leave my ovaries when they take my uterus I may STILL have to be on estrogen replacement therapy anyway! He also initially refused to do a hysteroscopy because I ultimately got my period (after only spotting for two cycles) and he said even though they found scar tissue in there before it wouldn't impact a pregnancy - that made me very uneasy.
So I went back today, and when I mentioned the lap for pain relief, he got all upset and said (like he did last time) that it was pointless and would only provide a couple months pain relief and wasn't worth it. He said my pain is probably not from my endometriosis, but from my adenomyosis (where endo grows in the muscular wall of the uterus). Then I got teary eyed and explained that I knew I was simply postponing the inevitable - but I have to move in a month and between that and losing my uterus, this was what I needed to do right now. I told him how I didn't have anymore fertility treatments left in me, but I wanted to try again so I was willing to risk scarring on my ovaries and begged him to do the drilling. I just need to give it one last shot before I can come to terms with all of this. If it doesn't work then - then fine. Kick it to the curb!
He immediately came around and agreed to everything - even the hysteroscopy! This is so exciting because he specializes in Asherman's, which is the rare condition I have causing scarring inside my uterus - so if it IS back he will know how to properly remove it! I will finally be in the hands of someone who knows what they are doing! But then there was the reality check that my insurance probably wouldn't pay for the drilling, and possibly everything else too. The ovarian drilling would be done by my RE, who is also awesome - so I'm psyched about that too but my insurance doesn't cover visits to my RE. So I met with their insurance woman and she told me their out of pocket cost for the drilling, hysteroscopy AND lap (including anesthesia and paying TWO different surgeons) would be $3100!!! With the sale of our house, we could swing it and I was ecstatic! So they will be calling me tomorrow to schedule it.
Hopefully in a matter of months I'll be back in the game! The easy way! I'm so excited!
Oh and I don't know if I posted my colonoscopy results - good news there too! No endo on my colon. He said he saw evidence of a hemorrhoid. The cyclic bleeding was from that and apparently something about the blood flow at my period activates it. So that was AMAZING news too - no bowel resectioning for me!
Basically, we just sold our house and are closing around July 23, and losing my first home that we worked so hard on for the past five years AND losing my uterus in the same month would just be way too much for me to handle. I decided that I could not make peace with losing my uterus until I put in one last fight, and had the right people fix me up properly beforehand. The problem is, I just don't think I have another IVF or IUI in me - I just think with all the pressure that it would be my official very last try for the rest of my life, I just think it would be doomed from the stress of that from the start.
I really wanted him to do ovarian drilling, which would help align my hormones that are messed up from my PCOS, and will hopefully get me to ovulate on my own afterwards. I realize in some cases it doesn't work, but I respond really well to clomid and the injectables, so I'm hoping it will be all I need. That way I can try again possibly several times the old fashioned way! I can hardly even imagine it!!
In my first meeting with this specialist he refused to do the drilling, because I have issues with pain and he said I'd be risking scarring on my ovaries and having to remove those too down the line for pain. It is a risk I am willing to take. It is only a risk, and from what I've read, there is a chance that even if they leave my ovaries when they take my uterus I may STILL have to be on estrogen replacement therapy anyway! He also initially refused to do a hysteroscopy because I ultimately got my period (after only spotting for two cycles) and he said even though they found scar tissue in there before it wouldn't impact a pregnancy - that made me very uneasy.
So I went back today, and when I mentioned the lap for pain relief, he got all upset and said (like he did last time) that it was pointless and would only provide a couple months pain relief and wasn't worth it. He said my pain is probably not from my endometriosis, but from my adenomyosis (where endo grows in the muscular wall of the uterus). Then I got teary eyed and explained that I knew I was simply postponing the inevitable - but I have to move in a month and between that and losing my uterus, this was what I needed to do right now. I told him how I didn't have anymore fertility treatments left in me, but I wanted to try again so I was willing to risk scarring on my ovaries and begged him to do the drilling. I just need to give it one last shot before I can come to terms with all of this. If it doesn't work then - then fine. Kick it to the curb!
He immediately came around and agreed to everything - even the hysteroscopy! This is so exciting because he specializes in Asherman's, which is the rare condition I have causing scarring inside my uterus - so if it IS back he will know how to properly remove it! I will finally be in the hands of someone who knows what they are doing! But then there was the reality check that my insurance probably wouldn't pay for the drilling, and possibly everything else too. The ovarian drilling would be done by my RE, who is also awesome - so I'm psyched about that too but my insurance doesn't cover visits to my RE. So I met with their insurance woman and she told me their out of pocket cost for the drilling, hysteroscopy AND lap (including anesthesia and paying TWO different surgeons) would be $3100!!! With the sale of our house, we could swing it and I was ecstatic! So they will be calling me tomorrow to schedule it.
Hopefully in a matter of months I'll be back in the game! The easy way! I'm so excited!
Oh and I don't know if I posted my colonoscopy results - good news there too! No endo on my colon. He said he saw evidence of a hemorrhoid. The cyclic bleeding was from that and apparently something about the blood flow at my period activates it. So that was AMAZING news too - no bowel resectioning for me!
Things happen for a reason. everything seems to be falling inplace for you. Let us know when your surgery is and how it goes. Good luck with everything and I will say a prayer for you. You have been very patient and you deserve this. God bless!!!
I love you guys! You all really feel like a second family to me! Thanks for the encouragement! I will definitely keep you all posted!
oh and in answer to alikat's question - It's all done outpatient, so they assured me that is the only cost - YAY!
oh and in answer to alikat's question - It's all done outpatient, so they assured me that is the only cost - YAY!
That is indeed such great news to hear from you!!!I am happy that you are giving it one more try. A couple months will be here before you know it. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.
good luck to you my dear
xo,
marline
good luck to you my dear
xo,
marline
YAY!! Good for you! I am glad you stood your ground and told him to do it! YAY for the out of pocket pay too! THAT IS AWESOME!! Good luck girly!! SSBD coming your way!
Good for you!! I am so glad to hear that you are getting a lot of good news and that you will be able to try again and not be stressed by IVF or IUI. The cost of all of thos procedures sounds very good to me and it sounds like you are in good hands. I really hope everything works out for you and that you will get your bfp soon:)
Good for you! I'm so glad you are trying again! I can see that you have a renewed excitement and that is great! I hope this is the key to letting it work the "easy way".
Well, I am so glad you are giving it another shot. You have a lot on your plate and this is going to do wonders for you physically and mentally!! Good luck to you.
I am so happy to hear you are giving it another shot. I will be thinking of you often and keeping my fingers crossed that everything goes well. :)
this is great news, and i am so glad you are giving it another go. i know absolutely nothing about ovarian drilling but i hope it works for you. make sure there are no "hidden" costs. will you be in the hospital? will your ins. cover your stay? how much will that cost? etc. i can't wait to hear good news!
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