Feeling Teased, Heartbroken

[arlandonbloom]

My husband and I are trying to concieve, but it just doesn't seem to be happening. Each time, I feel teased because I get the cramps, discharge, wake up in the morning feeling sicker than a dog, mood swings, breast swelling, and then I take the test and it comes out negative, each time. This time though, I have been eating more, the cramps are worse, disharge has increased, and this morning I actually woke up and vomited... But I don't know if it's too early or not, I am due to start my period on 9/23. We started trying again two weeks ago after my last period but if I don't start this next time I am going to be just so upset. It feels like people who don't even try or want a baby get pregnant the first time, but planning takes so much time and effort and gets your hopes up. Sometimes I think I'm infertile, every has told me I'm too skinny to concieve (105 lbs) but I've known people about the same weight who got pregnant in no time. I just need advice, this is heartbreaking.

[arlandonbloom]

I was supposed to start my period today (9/23) and usually when I start, it's heavy but today, instead of blood, it's clear mucus with little traces of blood mixed within, and there's like a pink/creamy-white discharge. I've never experienced this before, anyone know what it could be?

[arlandonbloom]

That makes sense! Thank you all for the advice!

[FirstTymeMommii]

I am only 21yrs old and my partner (23) and I were definitely not ttc just yet... we just wanted to enjoy the pleasures of our intimate life and ended up with a daughter.
My doctor told me that ttc is like trying to get a period.. the more you stress and worry and basically "force " lack of better terms your body and mind it will postpone itself. How does that work, the mysteries of the female body. But like mommyofaria said... just take a break, a serious break, from ttc and actually enjoy your intimate moments. Maybe go on an relaxing vacay and just break from baby making a while.

[lovelyglover]

I agree with mommyofaria the one month I actually wasn't thinking about getting pregnant I actually got pregnant but I know its not easy at all! Just try and relax

[mommyofaria]

It means just have sex to enjoy it and try not to think about trying to make a baby :)

[arlandonbloom]

thanks to you both for the advice, we haven't been trying for long, two months but compared to most that is nothing, but it's just frustrating seeing my friends not trying at all and they get pregnant so easily.

@ cheekymeaky i am so sorry for your loss but i congratulate you and wish you the best!

@mommyofaria everyone keeps telling us to stop trying but what does that even mean?! haha i just want to be a mom so bad, and my husband wants to be a dad so bad but everything will turn out for the best.

[mommyofaria]

You have to not look at the symptom....they don't mean anything when your ttc...because they can be just a weird period or c shift in your hormonal balance....also constantly thinking about The pregnancy can cause your body to make you believe that you are by making the symptoms worse. You have to relax and let it happen....mainly stop trying...sounds weird you need to relax and stop stressing about it and stop letting the symptop your having play a role in anything....good luck to you sweetie and.your little blessing will come soon...just give it time..or talk to your doctor :)

Also I don't know the brand but there is a over the counter fertility test...that you can take to ease your mind about being fertile or not

Good luck!

[cheekymeaky]

I know how you feel and it's indescribable how upset and down you feel. I know that it seems like everyone gets pregnant so easily especially the ones who don't try. How long have you been trying? After a year of trying I found out my partner sperm count was low and I don't ovulate every month. I used a fertility monitor but it didn't work as mum ovulate was so unpredictable.

I think it may be too early to test so you should wait. You know how hard it is to see that negative and that's what you will see if you do it now. Ifbi was you I would wait until your late or the day your due on.

I tried for 18 months and finally fell. We lost our first but now I am pregnant again and things are going well and I'm 14 weeks today. Please remember it's worth it. All the heartache and tears are worth it. I finally fell when we wasn't expecting it and almost gave up. We were being referred for fertility treatment, it all comes right in the end.

Here's some tips: take folic acid as it really helps, eat well, try not to stress over things, stay positive, see your Dr if you have being trying for over a year.

Good luck :-)