Ok, so today I was on my own with my toddler and my profoundly autistic daughter, driving from Vancouver, WA into Portland to take my daughter to get her O/T eval done. First of all, I was already achy when I got up this morning (a pretty common thing for me since about April) but gah, I was also SOooooo fatigued that I struggled concentrating/focusing at driving about 1 mile after passing over the I-5 bridge... by the time I got to the parking lot at Emanuel I was a little better but feeling extremely overwhelmed. Walked (rather, hobbled slowly with a slight limp) the girls into the building - lights, movement, hospital smell (which always brings on PTSD symptoms of anxiety after my last pregnancy), I wished I had just stayed home and cancelled - I was just draggin' my butt trying to get down the hallway and check my daughter in. Once we got to the offices, I was wiped out. Then my autistic daughter had a melt down because she wanted to play in the playroom - it took all my energy to try to get her attention but she continued to cry and scream and I felt SO bad for her, then she nearly kicked the O/T assistant in the chest after nearly kicking my toddler. I apologized and tried to retain some composure but inside I just wanted to cry.
The additional stress caused me to have issues with my ability to answer the O/T's questions without stuttering and stammering, then I started to ramble and apologize for my seeming stupidity and explained that I was having a tough day from Fibromyalgia. Later during the session, I struggled to mark the check boxes in the forms she'd given me to fill out, and oh, did I mention the extreme fatigue?! I could've just laid down in the middle of a hallway and passed out I was so tired! Just before they released us to go home, I realized that I was feeling like I was moving and talking in slow motion and everything around me felt like it was going full steam ahead - which made me feel very self conscious. I left, feeling numb - walked the kids back to the car and just sat there for several minutes doing deep breathing exercises to get a grip. I got my senses under control right up until I took a wrong turn that headed me to the wrong side of the river across a bridge.... took me a while to turn myself back around with all the one way roads (I hate Portland now and used to feel comfortable driving in the city!) We got home safely but I swore to myself that I'd NEVER again drive any further than 5 miles from my home by myself or especially with my kids unless it was an absolute emergency or until I'm symptom free (oh yeah, no current cure and not much of a chance anytime soon... grrr.)
Is this going to go away?! Every freakin' day is this busy for me (I mean, c'mon! I have four kids!! 2 with ASD, 1 with PTSD, and a VERY busy toddler). How am I supposed to function when stress is part of our every day lives when any stress causes my symptoms to flare? My Fiance is trying SO hard to understand but how could he possibly? He's sympathetic but, let's face it, my health is drastically impacting him and he's over-stressed now because of it too. Tonight I hurt so much... but still had to go grocery shopping for my family as we were OUT of food (we're SO financially strapped lately). I fear tomorrow is going to be horrendous... and I'm home with all four kids until the afternoon as they're out for the holidays. I LOVE my kids, wish I felt good 'nuff to play with them or take them out for something fun.
I don't have family in my region of the US and even fewer friends and even if I did, they wouldn't likely understand. I really need to find a regular "Fibro Friend" that I can check in with when I'm having a bad day and they can do the same. Even better if there is someone nearby where we can go out for the occasional Jamba Juice fix (or coffee if preferred) and just let it all out. I think ultimately, THAT is going to be my best ally above and beyond any therapist who may try to understand but hasn't experienced it. Does that make sense? During my pregnancy I struggled with, I had an online support group and was even paired up with ladies from my same time zone (it's rarer than Fibro so a match to someone in a time zone was more likely than one in your own state sometimes) - anyone know of anything like that?