I was pushed!!

[uk2]

Hi All

I got into a verbal argument with my 10 year old child (who things she knows it all) and she flipped and pushed me as hard as she could i have no balance and walk with sticks i went flying onto the floor and banged my head hard and knocked myself out for a minuite my other two children 8 and 6 called my button which went straight through to the ambulance crew which came, they helped me up, i refused to go to hospital but as i had a head they called my ex husband and waited till he got here as they would not leave me unless i had somebody with me.

I had a huge headache as obvious and spent 2 days in bed it's been 4 days and i'm a singal mum and have to be be up and about but my stomach and around my right ribs feel like my muscle have been ripped out and there on fire all the time, it seems to off set off extreme fatiuge in me and spasms all over the place. I've only just came out of a bad 2 month bed ridden flare 4 weeks and counting and then this happens, i'm worried i might of torn some muscles or eve hurt my ribs but its hard to tell with the usual fibro pain, its agony to just sit here. I'm on lyrica, pain killers pain patches 75 fentanal not sure if i should of gone to the hospital but i'm in the UK and the ER is not the fastest and there prob is nothing they can do.

What do you think?

Sam

[hatgal]

Just reading your comments that popped up under a note on the forum I am on.  Believe me, I know your pain and I know all about Lyrica, fentanyl and pain pills!  I do not have fibro, just back/neck issues (just!).  But before my surgery, I was at my worst, just as you are with being in bed all the time, hurting so much, etc., etc.  My 16 year old and 11 year old basically cared for me as my husband was no use; don't get me started on that one, but he should have been the one to take the slack and he never, ever did, my kids did.  I am much better now and looking for work again, but I look at my 16 year old and she still feels SO responsible, especially for my 3-year old.  This is part of the reason she has not gone back to school (being home schooled by the school).  She still thinks I need her here. Anyway, my 11 year old, I saw very much was angry at me when I was sick; my husband and I fought alot (and still do) and she just did not understand why I couldn't just get up and be normal again.  She had problems at school, just attention problems and absent/late problems, but it was all because she just didn't understand.  It is not excuse for what your child did to you and believe me, I would have wholloped her a.. if it were me.  I know it's hard, but could you possibly try and have a counseling session somewhere with your daughter - she is angry at you and she doesn't understand.  Since there is no father around for her (at least daily at home), she must feel so alone and frightened and very, very confused.  An 11 year old needs their Mom the most (as do 16 year olds, I've found) and you being sick is so hard on both of you.  I'm sorry I don't know more about your condition, but is there any hope for the future?  I do, however, know that pain in your ribs - sounds like you stretched the "lung" muscle and it feels like it's ripping out - I've had it before.  Skelaxin really helps that (muscle relaxant).  I so pray for you and your children that you get well  And I do know it's SO very hard to concentrate on them when you're in so much pain, I really, really know.  I guess I'm just hoping that  you can take some moments to sit down and really talk, ask them how they are feeling.  Wow, I feel for you.  Please be well............... Elizabeth

[PlateletGal]

I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through with your daughter's. It is rough being a mother already but when you are ill ? That can make it a million times harder.

I hope that you will hang in there and get all of the support that you need. I would definitely recommend seeing a physician and maybe getting some emotional support. You have support here... always and we are here 24/7 (well pretty much !)

[uk2]

The head injury was a worry at first but its been 72 hours and i'm fine its my ribs and stomach muscle that are bothering me now, they hurt so bad like someone has ripped them out, hurts when i breath,turn and lay on the right one hard to tell if there is damage or its a really bad fibro flare.

I have social services invovled in my daughter case she is violent to her sisters too and worst since my husband left and i've had month long flares confined to bed, i guess in a way she resents me as she has to do alot for me but thats not my fault.

sam

[PlateletGal]

I hope you will consider going to the ER... especially since you have a head injury. You probably should have gone the day the incident occurred... because head injuries can be serious, especially within the first 24 hours or so.

I'm sorry to hear what has happened with your daughter. It makes me think of that saying, "speak softly and carry a big stick". She should not be physically abusing you like that.