Hello, I'm new here and I'm in a very distressed state at the moment and don't know where to turn. I will try to put this in as shorter version as I can. Firstly I want to say that until I first started with my health problems I was a very hard worker (16hrs a day) I was not/am not lazy. (although it has taken me many years to realise i am not lazy, and now I feel as if I've been knocked right back)
My health problems started early on, and I was with an abusive partner who beat me so badly I needed reconstructive surgery on my face, had a fractured spine, and osteoarthritis in my hips, spine and pelvis, and sciatica. I also have hashimotos, and pernicious anemia, calcium deficiency and nerve damage in my lower legs.
I was diagnosed with FBS a few years ago, and because of that the pain clinic discharged me (I used to get injections for my arthritis and sciatica) I have struggled ever since, and 2yrs ago tried to take my own life because I couldn't cope and have not much quality of life.
My G.P. Finally got the chronic pain clinic to take me back on (Yes!) and my appointment was yesterday. What they said to me has left me feeling utterly devastated. They refused to treat me for my problems that they "could" help me with, but offered me a 4wk rehabilitation hundreds of miles away from my home. Don't they realise that you can't be rehabilitated from FBS? They know I suffer from severe anxiety and am under the mental health dept for that. I can't begin to describe how just the thought of leaving my family/home to travel hundreds of miles to a strange place alone for 4wks has made me feel. There were 4 members of the team, and the occupational therapist said some things that left me speechless, such as "oh your husband does a lot for you, thats a bit of a shame for him" and "are you sure you've got over what your ex did, and you're not just sitting thinking about it feeling a bit sorry for yourself". Then the physiotherapist said "if we can say get you back jogging (he is having a laugh isn't he?) We know it will not help your pain, and will probably make it worse, but at least you can say you have done something to feel proud of" What? is he telling me I am something to be ashamed of? I'd say managing to get through the day without completely losing my mind or succeeding in finishing myself off was an achievment. They have no idea how this has made me feel, I am barely able to see the screen as my eyes are so swollen, I've not stopped crying since I came home last night. Don't they realise just how s**t this illness makes you feel about yourself as a person anyway? I have every single symptom there is and more, my disgestive system, my bowels, my bladder, my muscles, my bones, my skin, I have nervous blisters, I am in a constant state of drowsiness, I talk as if I'm retarded, I have migraine that cripples me, I'm totally exhausted, clumsiness, forgetfullness, anxiety, depression. And I feel very very ashamed of the way I am, the person this has caused me to become. I can't even remember the last time I had fun. They even asked me what benefits I was recieving. And you know, I have never claimed my parking badge as I don't go out a great deal, I have only just a couple of months ago claimed my tax entitlement for my car, and that was only because they messed up my payments and I didn't have the money to buy it. If I was able to be jogging, galivanting, I'd be working, when the truth of the matter is I live in poverty, and they think I choose that over being able to jog? If I was able to jog I wouldn't have been visiting the pain clinic.
I'm really sorry for this obvious rant, but I've "muddled along" for years, almost frightened to visit the doctors as I'm always made to feel that I'm wasting their time. I thought this was going to be the one time that they would help me or at least be understanding. I look at my husband and think to myself what am I doing to him? Perhaps he would have a happier life if it were not for me and my pathetic illness. At the very least the benefit system would be better off without me being here. And perhaps my feeling were right all along when I always felt I was a person to be ashamed of.
Any tips from anybody would be very much appreciated. Thank you very much x