Welcome to the forum. Sometimes I wing it with a response based only on the title of a question, before I read the question itself. Here goes.
Breast milk is not highly infectious for HIV. Even among infants nursed by HIV infected mothers, only about 10% become infected by 6 months, despite swallowing several ounces of breast milk daily. The chance you were infected by a drop in the eye, even if your partner had HIV, is zero for all practical purposes.
Now I have read the question itself. My wing-it instinct worked again! The drop of fluid in your mouth also carried no measurable risk. You indeed were "playing safe". Anyway, the odds a 28 year old attorney has HIV are far lower than the chance you will win the state lottery someday. You don't need HIV testing in this scenario.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Thank you for the quick and straight forward response.
It is most helpful. I might ad that when I contacted another hotline (SF Aids Hotline) their answer is always subject to an if/but disclaimer that only ads to ones anxiety.
Thank you and enjoy the afternoon or morning,
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