Doctore, please give me a thorough advice. I went through other experts who never answered my follow-up question. I hope you can help me. Thank you.
My encounter was with a heterosexual male who's had about 50 partners in his life and does not always practice safe sex. This was in NYC which has the highest prevalence of HIV+ diagnosis in the US. We had 4 protected sexual encounters each lasted 2-5min without any ejaculation, but one time he tried to put on a condom the wrong way and immediately flipped it over. He probably got some pre-cum on the tip of the condom when wearing it the wrong way. I did check if the air was out by squeezing the tip of condom before letting him enter me. I'm very scared that I could be infected by the pre-cum on the condom because I have genital herpes and that could increase the infection susceptibility by 3 times, I heard. I didn't have outbreaks at that time, but who knows maybe the symptoms can be unnoticeable. Also, I heard STD can cause cell changes in the mucosal surface which creates an entry for HIV virus. I'm too scared to get tested b/c I'm emotionally fragile and HIV is just too rare for people in my culture and social class. If I really tested positive, I don't even think I have the courage to walk home alive.
In terms of symptoms, after my encounter on 7/24/2011, I had a very slight soar throat 4 days later, which I think was from lack of sleep and fatigue at the time. It went away after 1.5 days. My second symptom was 8 weeks later, soar throat and runny nose went away after 2-3 days. At12 weeks I had a cold which lasted 4days. During these time, I never doubted if I could be infected with HIV, so I wasn't anxious or worried at all and I have very healthy lifestyle too. Not until recently, I started to think that I should not rule out this possibility. My most recent symptom is a slight burning sensation on the back of my neck close to back of my right ear.