I was recently given an 'erotic massage' by a sex worker - this consisted of a regular massage plus kisses all over my chest (nipples etc).
After all was said and done, I noticed I had scabs - perhaps a day or two old - around where she was kissing. I looked carefully, but there was no blood oozing or anything from them.
However, one worries. I checked this forum out a lot, and it looks like exposure to HIV from someones mouth is zero: no established cases via that route etc. As you say, you need to have sex to get HIV and I didn't. I'd look to put this behind me - I don't think I need the also test from everything you've said on this site, but I'd like to stop inventing situations in my head like: 'what if your scab was bleeding so slightly you couldn't notice and what if she was bleeding in her mouth etc'.
Thanks in advance for your answer.