Welcome to the forum.
You had accurate replies in your two separate threads on the HIV community forum. You had a no-risk exposure and did not need testing for HIV. You have misinterpreted something you read on this forum: neither I nor Dr. Hook ever said an exposure like yours has anything near a 1% chance of catching HIV, even if your partner were positive. If she is female and had HIV, the risk would be an average around 1 in 2,000. With the condom, it's zero -- and it is statistically unlikely your partner had HIV anyway.
Finally, a negative HIV antibody test, including the Oraquick home self test, is virtually 100% reliable at 6 weeks. For more discussion about this, including the reasons that most official sources still advise testing at 3 months, see the thread linked below.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1704700
The bottom line is exactly as you state: you should "accept the first test results and the safe sex act as final and move on".
I hope this has been helpful. Best wishes and stay safe-- HHH, MD