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worried sick ruining my family
a month ago i had a sexual encounter with a prostitute here in seattle. she gave me a hand job on one hand while inserting her other hand in her vagina. she wiped her hands with an alcohol based wipe then changed hands to continue giving me a hand job. she later gave me an oral with condom and later had vaginal sex with her. what i am afraid of is that during intercourse the condom was loose but did not come off. after ejaculation she then proceeded to clean her vaginal fluids from the unexposed part of my penis with same alcohol based wipes first then taking off the condom and wiping the rest. i had a test 2 weeks after which came out negative. my doctor said not to worry because vaginal fluids dont carry a high risk.
what worries me is that the upper part of my penis stem had some abrasion resulting from masturbation. i am afraid that her vaginal fluid could have come in contact with my abrasions when she was cleaning it and what is my risk?
what worries me is that the upper part of my penis stem had some abrasion resulting from masturbation. i am afraid that her vaginal fluid could have come in contact with my abrasions when she was cleaning it and what is my risk?
thanks for the advice! i came clean with my wife and she's taking my money away from me (: i guess serves me right.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Most likley scaredlonelady is not moralizing -- we don't do that on this forum. But the phrase "if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen" comes to mind. Regardless of the moral issues about sexual fidelity, if you're going to react with this sort of anxiety after commercial sex exposures, it makes sense to avoid them.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the HIV forum.
You had completely safe sex. HIV cannot be transmitted by vaginal sex through an intact condom, even if the condom is "loose". Oral sex is almost no risk even without a condom and zero risk with one; and hand-genital contact probably never transmits HIV, even when genital fluids are used for lubrication. Finally, HIV is rare in commercial sex workers in most of the US, and that inludes Seattle -- so it is very unlikely your partner had HIV.
From a risk assessment standpoint, you do not need to be tested for HIV. (If I were in your situation, I would not get tested and I would continue unprotected sex with my wife, without fear of infecting her.) However, if you remain nervous despite this reassurance, feel free to get tested. The public health STD clinic at Harborview would be an excellent choice for testing.
Regards-- HHH, MD
You had completely safe sex. HIV cannot be transmitted by vaginal sex through an intact condom, even if the condom is "loose". Oral sex is almost no risk even without a condom and zero risk with one; and hand-genital contact probably never transmits HIV, even when genital fluids are used for lubrication. Finally, HIV is rare in commercial sex workers in most of the US, and that inludes Seattle -- so it is very unlikely your partner had HIV.
From a risk assessment standpoint, you do not need to be tested for HIV. (If I were in your situation, I would not get tested and I would continue unprotected sex with my wife, without fear of infecting her.) However, if you remain nervous despite this reassurance, feel free to get tested. The public health STD clinic at Harborview would be an excellent choice for testing.
Regards-- HHH, MD
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