Need Support

[blackhawk8]

I was previously a "WW" a few years ago and tested negative for a non-risk. I have played safe ever since with one exception, an engagement I was in last year. I found out she wasn't completely truthful about her past.  I will never allow myself to go down this road again, and my second test I am planning on being my last in my lifetime. The one thing that lessens the worry a bit about possibly being infected from my relationship is that she had all kinds of blood tests done and a spinal tap as a follow up to a meningitis scare she had a year or two ago, as well as tests for "STD's" during a cervical infection, although I don't know if HIV was done specificially, I would imagine all those tests would have picked up on abnormalities had she been infected?  In any case, I also have had two condom failures, with two different girls since then. Both were very brief exposures.  I now realize that in order to move on with my life I need to test. The last condom breakage was two days ago. The relationship ended last Spring and the previous condom break was two months ago, so I am nearing the completion of that window period. When is the earliest I can test and, with my fairly low risk of a one time condom break encounter, feel good about a hopefully negative result? I do not want to go for more than one test, as they fill me with fear and anxiety. I would also humbly ask for some friendship and support as I wait,, as I'm incredibly tense and fearful.
Thanks In Advance.

[blackhawk8]

Lizzie,

Thanks for your response.  I have read Dr. HH on a couple of posts say 4/6 weeks was around 95% conclusive and you could bank on it with a smaller risk... I would rather put this past me if I'm negative before the Holiday season begins... would you agree with that advice?

As far as the condom failures, I'm not sure. I've had 3 in my experience, two of them just happened to have been this year... maybe I need to try a different brand.

[LIZZIE LOU]

test 3 months post your LAST exposure.

soooooo...why do you think that you are having condom failures?