In the United States an estimate 1 million people has HIV out of a population of over 350 million. Among the persons who have HIV about 60% are men who have sex with men. Thus if one's partner is not an IV drug user, the statistical likelihood that a person has HIV is less than 1 in 1000 and probably lower.
If you have had 1 negative HIV test at any time more than 8 weeks after your last sexual contact with a partner who concerns you, you can be confident that you do not have HIV. Two negative tests makes this even more certain. If this description fits you , you can be confident that you o not have HIV and that your partner is not at risk of HIV from you.
Hope this information is helpful. EWH
Also after two negative tests would you personally continue to have unprotected sex with your spouse without worry?