THE VERY FIRST POST, AFTER DOING A SEARCH, WAS THIS ONE FROM DR. HOOK. PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF #2
by Edward W Hook, MD
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Edward W Hook, MD
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, Mar 31, 2008 10:32PM
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You have nothing to worry about for many reasons.
1. You do not know her atatus as you pointout. The fact is, most CSWs, do not have HIV.
2. Irrespective of her status, you were protected.
3. Even if she was infected (remember, it is unlikely that she was) and if you'd been unprotected (but you were) your odds of infection after a single exposure would be less than 1 in 1000.
When you put all of these together, your chances of having gotten HIV from the exposure you describe are vanishingly rare. No reason to even get tested based on this particular exposure. EWH
I thank you Lizzie :) I had read this post sometime ago as well, however interestingly the term "vanishingly rare" -- once again con notates an extremely strong NO, however it still isn't a pointblank Zero Risk as stated many a times by you and Teak and many others.
Which in turn brings me back to my standing query, why the use of terms by the experts like Dr. Hook like 'vanishingly rare', zero risk 'or close to it', 'minuscule', 'extraordinarily low'? When consequently a point blank "No risk" is in fact what's being told to people on the community forums in regards to protected sex?
You knew before being very LONG WINDED that you were not at risk of contracting HIV because you had protected sex. Now go elsewhere and waste someone elses time.
It's unfortunate you construed my post as a waste of everyone's time Teak, as aforementioned; my intention wasn't that at all. I merely wanted to grasp a clearer picture as to why there's a difference in approach towards answering between some of the more learned community members here and the doctors on the expert forum. Before I leave you all to do what I honestly feel is a wonderful & noble service provided, I just wanted to ask you -- Teak directly, as to why experts like Dr. Hook claim a 'single protected exposure' to be extraordinarily low risk whilst you claim it to be an absolute Zero risk?
A condom used consistently and correctly is 100% effective in preventing HIV and most STDs. Now had Dr. HHH answered he would have said no risk from protected sex. A single exposure without a condom is low but it is not without a risk.
My thanks to you for your time & advice Teak. I was wondering though, at the incident I had six weeks ago, the CSW placed the condom on me herself. At the end of the vaginal act, I noticed the condom completely on and intact, however it might have slipped a little bit forward from the bottom, i.e. rolled a bit. BUT the shaft & head of my penis were still completely covered by the condom. Is this off concern in terms of compromising my protection?.
Teak, after reading what you've said about this matter, I'm going to wholeheartedly attempt to move on with my life without allowing my anxieties to get the best of me. Once more, I can't express to you how much of a great help you've been to me and many others I presume. However before I leave, I have this one last query in regards to HIV testing. Asides from the CSW incident I had six weeks ago, I've only had 2 sexual partners within my entire life, both cannot be considered high-risk. One of whom, I am confident wasn't an intravenous drug user and was a virgin, i.e. I am sure she was HIV negative, so that's that. The other one whom I broke up with about a year ago was a concern in my mind. I got in touch with her again recently, and she assured me that she did not have HIV, however me being the anxious beaver, went into a state of denial and started going a bit overboard with my anxieties. She went and got tested for HIV 1&2 screening at a reputable hospitable here and it came back negative. Her last sexual exposure before me was in 2006. She isn't on any medication what so ever either. Is there a chance that her results were a false negative, or are they completely conclusive?.
I believe it's time for you to move over to the anxiety or OCD forums.
I believe you're right. I reckon I need to speak to a professional counselor about this stuff now. Thank you Teak, and I apologize if I ever caused any inconvenience to you in regards to my anxiety-laden queries. Kind Regards.
I just wanted to clarify something with you in regards to that incident I had with the CSW six weeks ago. Since this was my first time with a CSW, I ejaculated in merely a few minutes after she initiated protected oral sex, she then removed & disposed off that condom and asked me to go clean myself. Then just before the vaginal sex, I was only semi-erect, and so in that state she placed a condom on me carefully. She then proceeded onto giving me protected oral for a minute or so just so that I get more aroused. I immediately then proceeded to penetrate her. Like I said though, when I looked down after the act, the condom looked intact. Does the fact that she performed oral and then we proceeded onto vaginal all on the same condom compromise my protection in any which way? Thanks, I just needed to run this by you for clarification.
ok now...we are stretching things here...lol. dont go "looking" for those ifs, ands, and buts. you had protected sex...PERIOD!!!!!
if you NEED to worry about something...worry about me living in florida and the hurricane season is supposed to be a BIG one.
move on :)
I hope the hurricane season remains relatively timid this time round for everyone in Florida :)
Hi Teak, I've spent the entire day trying to convince myself that I wasn't at risk of contracting HIV from the incident six weeks ago, and it had been working out fine for the last few days, but now I feel like I'm going under pressure again. What if the condom had a small rip in it that I didn't notice at the end of the vaginal act? What if the condom was faulty to begin with? I mean are there any facts & figures you can tell me that'll assure me within my mind that I wasn't at risk for HIV and that I don't need testing? Have you ever come across anyone who used a condom correctly and yet was infected after a single exposure?
MOVE ON. We're done here. You did not have a risk. Seek professional mental help.
Hey teak, im sorry to bother you, I no people drive you krazy about H.i.V contraction buti really need your help teak. Please
respond to this note, m ....this is the story, i am dating a girl that i've been with for 16 months, who's had alot of sexual partners in the past. not too many, she wasn't a hooker or anything but she's had sex with other guys, I am still with her today. Teak a few months ago, after sexual intercourse with her (unprotected), I started having diarrhea for a while, and noticed a red bump in my anus, sorta like a pimple. was pain ful for a li lbit than went away after a few days so i got releaved. But teak, as time went by, maybe a month or 2 later, (diarrhea still playing a roll, even until today i still have diarrhea), i noticed that my neck was getting stiff, like it felt like it was stingy, and turned a lil red, not too red, but a lil bit, im worried b/c on the h.i.v symptoms thing, they said, swollen lymph nodes as one, my neck had this lil stingy feeling and was a lil red for only 4-5 days, and went away, than maybe came back a lil later but went away again, teak...until today sir, i still have diarrhea and my nose has been feeling a lil awkard...like i cant explain it..it doesnt feel more of a stuffy nose, feels like more of an irritated nose, like it's not a running nose...just feels weird...like i caught something....than months later, i noticed a rash which was a week ago, that was itchy and looked more of an insect bite, a mosquito bite, but was real itchy...until today, i still get dirrahea, since the day i had that pimple sorta thingy in my anus months ago, but it's not diarrhea everyday, every other day i have hard bowel movements, i dono why....so im worried. i am still with the same girl today, as we are in love but i am worried and dont know waht to do, i also tend to sweat here n there wen i wake up from sleep, my shirt gets wet sometimes, every week or so, i dono what to do teak, i am scared ******** to take a test and find out i am positive. constant diarrahea for MONTHS, after the pimple in my anus...night sweats here n there...my nose feeling irritated here n there...the rash that got on my arm months after all the other symptoms, and the rest that i explained, please teak help me and respond and give me advice on what to do, I just really need your advice, i can't even sleep cus all i think about is my family, i have 3 brothers and a sister and 2 loving parents who would be depressed if i caught anything, please help me teak..
Your symptoms are not indicative of ARS. If you have a concern get tested, for both HIV and STDs.
Your symptoms are not indicative of ARS. If you have a concern get tested, for both HIV and STDs.
So you're saying it's a possibility that i might have H.I.V or an STD because it's not related to ARS? or what?
You can't diagnose HIV by symptoms and the symptoms you have stated are not indicative of ARS alone. The only way to know your status is by testing. Take your gf with you and get tested together and put this behind you.
Teak, just wanted to clarify something with you. How sure can someone be that if a condom broke during intercourse, they would know about it? And also I wanted to ask you if you know anything about the effectiveness of "extra safe" condoms outside the US? Like for instance here in South East Asia?. Is Durex a recognized brand in the US? They were brand new, and I checked the expiry on them as well.
Yes durex is a recognized brand in the US. If the condom failed, they aren't easy to roll down.
So it's safe to assume that after the vaginal act, if the condom was rolled off by the CSW with ease, that the condom was indeed intact, and DID NOT fail right?. Also, are extra safe condom actually any safer? I mean, on the box they state them as "Slightly thicker" condoms, does all that really play into stronger protection against HIV?
Extra safe? Any latex or polypropylene condom is good if used consistently and correctly.
Hi Teak, I wanted to ask you something in regards to transmission. I understand that between adults, skin-to-skin contact poses no risk what so ever, but do the same rules apply to Children? Toddlers?. Something has gotten me a bit worried. I have a 5-month old nephew staying with me these days, and I often carry him around during the day, kiss him on his head, cheeks sometimes. He's doesn't really have any teeth yet but he's definitely teething, and is at a stage where he loves to put things in his mouth. The other day, I was only wearing a vest on top and was carrying him around, I'm not to sure but I think he may have momentarily tried to suck on my left shoulder for a bit. I wouldn't be concerned, but I've had sensitive skin since my early teens and have tiny pimples from time to time on my upper torso section (there weren't any fresh cuts or anything). But I'm worried, that with a substantial weaker immunity of a toddler like my nephew, he may have been exposed if God forbid I got HIV from that CSW incident six weeks ago? I mean what if small traces of blood from a pimple came into contact with his mouth? Are children more susceptible than adults in that respect?