Oral and deep kissing and HIV. Is it safe?

[Anxiousserious]

I had an exposure around 3 weeks ago. I had an oral sex & deep kissing with a fsw. Before having any intetcourse, she admitted she is hiv +. I freaked out and left immediately without asking if she was on meds or not. I read in different sites that it is a low,negligible or zero risk which confused me. I tried to take Prep but my doc refused as he said it isn't a high risk exposure which still made me scared. I didn't have any symptoms except a burning sensation on my tongue that lasted for nearly 2 weeks with some ulcers. When I finally got the courage to see a doctor, I was diagnosed with being hypersensitive. The doctor asked me if I was facing any stress lately bec it can be a cause or a low immune problem which made my hair stand like an antenna. I was prescibed meds and before starting to take them next day, my tongue became better and I didn't take the meds. Weird!!!!

My question : can those activites have any  % in transmitting hiv or any other STD? Was what i'm suffering an iral thrush which is an eaely hiv symptom or was mainly due to my anxiety and stress?

[AnxiousNoMore]

You had no risk so testing would be a waste of time. You didn't do any of the ONLY 3 risks below.

HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make your encounter a risk for HIV. No one got HIV from the situation you encountered in 40 years and likely no one will in the next 40 of your life, so there in no more likelihood of HIV transmission happening than of you getting hit by a meteor as you read this.
Is the hypersensitive diagnosis pertaining to anxiety or to medication?

[Anxiousserious]

Many thanks for your prompt reply. I a fully understand your question.

When I went to the doc, I wasn't taking any meds. When he checked my tongue, he said it is mostly a hypersensitive case due to stress which obviously I had for the past period or a low immune which worried me sick. I used to get the same episode with my tongue on and off before and never took meds before. But when it occurred after my exposure, I was obviously worried and took longer time than usual to heal by itself. I donno maybe bec of stress. But after he prescribed the meds and I went home, I felt better and slept well. Woke up feeling much better and didn't start the meds.

So, am I really off the hook or there is sg wrong?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Maybe reread the advice because I think you are asking the same question again.
I think you are trying to do self diagnosis and mixing up your fears with your sore tongue. As far as I can tell from your post you are just guessing you have some immune system problem.

[Anxiousserious]

No need for testing really even after 4 weeks?? I fully understand your answer but what about the fsw if she had a high viral load or not taking meds. Won't that add a risk? I want really just to sleep well,relax & forget this awful ****.

[Anxiousserious]

Sorry. I posted before reading yours. The doc said either or either. I was just quoting what the doc said. I didn't tell this doc about my ecposure bec he's specialized in nose,ear and throat. Of course I had and do still have stress which sounded a good explanation for my diagnosis. Nobody is trying to call the devil here.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Reread about the 3 because your situation is straightforward. No risk=no disease=no ARS.
You didn't have an HIV risk exposure and it doesn't matter if her DNA is at maximum HIV so you need to move on from HIV. Stress has nothing to do with hiv either.

[Anxiousserious]

A final update :

After my exposure around 2th of july, I was really living in hell thinking for sure I acquired HIV. I kept googling and checking my body for symptoms which made me really depressed.  What helped me to calm down, was joining this wonderful site.

I started reading the comments by anxiousnomore, curfewx, diver, chima,...etc. I learned a lot about HIV and its mode of transmission. I knew from longtime before that avoiding the famous "3"  is enough to be safe from HIV.  I never knew that Saliva or fingering can be a theoretical risk. This was new for me.

When the time was right to test just to calm my anxiety, I was really scared and was delaying the matter as there is no need to test after such an exposure.

Still, I was worried but my anxiety decreased a bit and I kept reading the posts at the forum.

Finally, I pulled myself up and got tested on 6/11 more than 4 months after the ecposure with 3rd generation antibody test. The result was negative. You can't imagine how all my anxiety, worries and burdens disappeared immediately.

I'm writing this update to thank all volunteers here for their work that affects many lives. Also, dear members, new or old, listen to the advise given here because it is really sincere, reliable and based on medical expertise.

Thanks again from the bottom of my heart and I will keep reading regularly what's being posted here as a learning process.