Anxiety

[suggestkumar88]

I am a just married male 29 yrs. went out with a few friends for drinks a strip club here in detroit michigan. My friends set me up with an african american female 22 yrs who said she is "clean" and would always use a condom and who would not just play around.

we chatted for a few mins. I was not drunk. she took me to a lap dance and then asked me for a hand job. i said ok and she proceeded and i thought she spit on my penis as i saw my penis tip moist. I told her no spit and she said she had not spit anyway and the fluid on my penis tip was my own pre cum. i was a little worried but she proceeded with hand job and i came on her hand. i did touch outer partner of her genitals (no fluids contact) and sucked nipples quite a bit.

I did have another lap dance same night previously and had sucked nipples of the lady/stripper.

based on my above exposure how much i am at a risk of getting any STD's especially HIV since i am very concerned. My friends laugh at me about my concern, but i am thinking about getting testing done soon.

1. Am i at no, low or any risk for HIV?

2. Am i at any risk for any other STD?

3.when should i get tested and for what (specifically)?

4. can i continue unprotected sex with my wife or no?

I do notice my penis is red and there is mild abrasions on the penis shaft border. might be due to shaffing?

Please help. very anxious.....

thank you doctors..

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

No, still no concern even if she had HIV or syphilis.  See sentence 2 of my reply above.

Thanks for your kind words.  Take care.

[suggestkumar88]

thanks for the response doctor. i did read the thread and it made a lot of sense. My only worry is considering she was HIV positive/syphilis and she did spit on the tip of my penis, would it be still no risk at all or should i be concerned this coming back to haunt me later in life??

I have a lot of respect for your achievements and experience in your field and would take your word for this without a doubt...

thank you

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Welcome to the forum.

This was a no-risk event with respect to HIV and all other STDs.  They cannot be transmitted by hand-genital contact, and saliva never carries HIV and rarely other STDs either.  In case you are interested, I have provided the link to a recent thread that discusses the biological reasons behind this.

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1861534

Those comments answer questions 1 and 2.  Question 3:  no testing of any kind is necessary.  Question 4:  you can safely continue unprotected sex with your wife, without putting her at risk of any infection.

Question 5:  I would guess your penile irritation indeed is due to chafing from the hand-gential contact.  The symptoms should clear up within a couple of days.

I hope this has helped.  Best wishes--  HHH, MD