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paranoid/worried, please help
Dear Doctors,
last night i had a one night stand with a woman I don't know (she was thirty-three and from New Zealand). We had sex and I used a condom.
there's a few things I'm a little worried about.
Immediately afterwards I went to the bathroom and washed my penis/crotch area with soap and water. there was a lot of her vaginal fluid on my crotch area. To wash down there I rubbed soap and water on my penis/crotch. I'm worried that as I was rubbing my penis (including the tip) I would have been rubbing her vaginal fluid into my penis.
Also I have a lot of small cuts on my fingers. they're all small and thin the biggest being about half a center meter long. non have blood pouring out of them but some do glisten as though they are wet. as I took off the condom I got some of her fluid on my hands. Also when I was washing down there I was using my hands so I would have got the fluid on my hands then too. So I'm worried some vaginal fluid may have gotten in through the cuts.
Also I didn't take the condom off properly, I grabbed the base and rolled it down my penis (so it went inside out as I took it off).
One last thing, I noticed that her vagina smelt really bad while we were having sex (so while my head/nose was a long way from her vagina so it must have been strong, this is why I stopped and went to wash myself). Also, when I took out my penis I noticed that she had some white slimy stuff coming out of her vagina. It wasn't my semen as the condom didn't brake and I didn't ejaculate. Does this indicate that she could have some kind of infection?
This all happened in London England
should I be tested/get PEP?
last night i had a one night stand with a woman I don't know (she was thirty-three and from New Zealand). We had sex and I used a condom.
there's a few things I'm a little worried about.
Immediately afterwards I went to the bathroom and washed my penis/crotch area with soap and water. there was a lot of her vaginal fluid on my crotch area. To wash down there I rubbed soap and water on my penis/crotch. I'm worried that as I was rubbing my penis (including the tip) I would have been rubbing her vaginal fluid into my penis.
Also I have a lot of small cuts on my fingers. they're all small and thin the biggest being about half a center meter long. non have blood pouring out of them but some do glisten as though they are wet. as I took off the condom I got some of her fluid on my hands. Also when I was washing down there I was using my hands so I would have got the fluid on my hands then too. So I'm worried some vaginal fluid may have gotten in through the cuts.
Also I didn't take the condom off properly, I grabbed the base and rolled it down my penis (so it went inside out as I took it off).
One last thing, I noticed that her vagina smelt really bad while we were having sex (so while my head/nose was a long way from her vagina so it must have been strong, this is why I stopped and went to wash myself). Also, when I took out my penis I noticed that she had some white slimy stuff coming out of her vagina. It wasn't my semen as the condom didn't brake and I didn't ejaculate. Does this indicate that she could have some kind of infection?
This all happened in London England
should I be tested/get PEP?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum.
This sounds like a high risk partner for some STDs, but probably not HIV, which remains rare in women in industrialized countries, including New Zealand. The two most common causes of strong vaginal odor are bacterial vaginosis, which is not transmitted to male sex partners; and, less commonly, trichomonas, which is an STD. Also, women withBV or trich often have other STSs, especially gonorrhea or chlamydia.
However, the important thing here is that you used a condom, which protected you against all these infections, including HIV. The other details of contact with her vaginal fluids, how you removed the condom, washing after sex, etc. make no difference one way or the other.
Therefore, you don't need to be tested for HIV or any other STD, and you certainly do not need PEP. Of course, you are always free to visit an STD clinic or sexual health centre if you remain nervous and would like to be tested anyway. Since you're obviously sexually active outside a mutually monogamous relationship, you should have routine STD/HIV from time to time, like once every 1-2 years, so this might be a good time, when it's on your mind. But definitely no need on account of this particular sexual exposure.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
This sounds like a high risk partner for some STDs, but probably not HIV, which remains rare in women in industrialized countries, including New Zealand. The two most common causes of strong vaginal odor are bacterial vaginosis, which is not transmitted to male sex partners; and, less commonly, trichomonas, which is an STD. Also, women withBV or trich often have other STSs, especially gonorrhea or chlamydia.
However, the important thing here is that you used a condom, which protected you against all these infections, including HIV. The other details of contact with her vaginal fluids, how you removed the condom, washing after sex, etc. make no difference one way or the other.
Therefore, you don't need to be tested for HIV or any other STD, and you certainly do not need PEP. Of course, you are always free to visit an STD clinic or sexual health centre if you remain nervous and would like to be tested anyway. Since you're obviously sexually active outside a mutually monogamous relationship, you should have routine STD/HIV from time to time, like once every 1-2 years, so this might be a good time, when it's on your mind. But definitely no need on account of this particular sexual exposure.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Makes no difference. That's all for this thread.
Sorry to ask again but i think my comment was missed. i just want to make sure that the cream (eumovate) i was using on my hands would make no difference to your assessment.
Many Thanks
Many Thanks
Just to clarify, I assume the cream (eumovate) I mentioned that I've been using also does not increase the risk/change your assessment?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Any theoretically increased risk of HIV from having eczema or small cuts is too low to measure or to be concerned about. Nobody in the world has been known (or even suspected) of catching HIV in this manner and you're not likely to be the first. Also note my comments about how unlikely it is that your partner has HIV anyway.
In other words, this information does not change my assessment or advice.
In other words, this information does not change my assessment or advice.
thanks a lot for the advice.
there's one thing I would like to add. The reason why I have cuts on my hand is because i used a soap I'm allergic to. It's made my hands very dry and left lots of cuts and cracks in the skin on my hands and fingers, it looks a little like eczema.
I've been using a cream called eumovate on my hands twice a day for about two weeks, it says it has 0.05% clobetasone butyrate in it. I put it on in the day before this happened (would have been about three hours before this happened).
As I mentioned I got her vaginal fluid on my hands, does the cream/allergic reaction make any difference to your answer?
thanks again
there's one thing I would like to add. The reason why I have cuts on my hand is because i used a soap I'm allergic to. It's made my hands very dry and left lots of cuts and cracks in the skin on my hands and fingers, it looks a little like eczema.
I've been using a cream called eumovate on my hands twice a day for about two weeks, it says it has 0.05% clobetasone butyrate in it. I put it on in the day before this happened (would have been about three hours before this happened).
As I mentioned I got her vaginal fluid on my hands, does the cream/allergic reaction make any difference to your answer?
thanks again
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