Alright, I'll do that doc..thank you for answering the questions that were burning in the back of my mind for the past six months now..have a safe and happy new!
Welcome to our Forum. There is no risk at all to you from the interaction you describe. HIV is not transmitted through masturbation ("fingering") or condom protected vaginal intercourse.
In the case of masturbation transmission does not occur, even if there were cuts or scrapes on your hand. No reason to worry about this at all.
With respect to your vaginal exposure, the condom worked and to "test" condoms for breakage is a messy waste of time. When condoms fail they break wide open leaving no doubt at all that they have broken. Condoms do not fail by leaking in small quantities.
Your jock itch, if present at the time of exposure, also does not in any way represent a vulnerability to infection and HIV would not pass through such lesions to cause infection.
Finally, with regard to your interaction with your doctor, I have the following observations:
1. The symptoms you describe could be due to anything and are most likely due to one of the plain old, every day viruses that people encounter on a regular basis. There is virtually no chance that they represent HIV acquired from the interaction you describe.
2. Anxiety raises blood pressure. So do viral illnesses.
3. You should always ask your doctor why he did blood tests and what they were. You can still call the office and ask someone these questions- I suggest you do.
Bottom line, you have virtually no risk for HIV. You have nothing to worry about and I do not see any medical need for testing related to the exposure you described above.
I hope this helps. EWH