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Deep French kissing few times and mutual masturbation (my finger in girl’s vagina) is totally no risk? I can’t get this out of my mind. I had two encounters in the last 2 years with two girls on unknown status and I’m worried to have brought something home to my wife. Feel bad. It still stuck in my mind that I might be infected. Thank you for your advice
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  ( vagina, mouth, lips, maybe blood, saliva, etc.). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe. There is no need to ell your wife since there was no risk, however it is not right to put someone at risk and not tell them so if you do vaginal or anal with other girls use a condom.
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Thank you much appreciated
But my finger was inside the vagina
HIV is transmitted by having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, or by sharing intravenous needles with other people.  If you don't do either of those activities with someone of unknown HIV status, you will NEVER have to worry about HIV.
"But my finger was inside the vagina" Yes, I noted that contact so reread the advice. Reread about "worst" and "3" and "40".
Thanks very helpful I put my worries to rest and I move on to enjoy my life
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