Risky encounter

[meway]

Hi,

I had a really risky encounter early Saturday around 3am. This was with another man, I consider myself bisexual. In my lifetime I have had 2 sexual relationships. The first one was with my longtime girlfriend who I love very much. The second encounter is the one in question. I was at a party with my brother and he asked me to give his intoxicated friend a ride home. While we were driving home, he started to ask me very personal questions. At first I thought he was trying to make me laugh. Then it got a bit heated and he started touching my genitals.

After we got to his house, he invited me inside. He is a married man with 2 children, but his family was at their summer house in New York. Now to the risky encounter - we both had unprotected anal sex. He topped first for ~4 minutes before he reached an orgasm. Then I topped for ~3 minutes before I reached an orgasm. He called me a couple of hours to ask if I was HIV+. I told him that the only other person I had a sexual relationship was with my longtime girlfriend who I know is not HIV+. Then he responded by saying, "Good - would you like to see me again?". This scared me even more at how gullible he was, I could have easily lied about my HIV status. He also told me that he was not HIV+ and this was his first time of having a sexual relationship outside his marriage. I do not trust him at all.

I understand this was a very risky encounter. What can I do? I have heard that PEP can be very effective if administered within 72 hours of exposure. This has to be one of the biggest mistakes I have made in life by far and I do not want to throw everything away. I still love my girlfriend and I do not want to put her at any risk before I know of my status. What do you recommend doing if my girlfriend wants to have sexual intercourse before I know of my status? Should I tell her about this situation or not? I have promised myself to never do anything this risky. I come from a well-off family and this would devastate our name. I am scared to talk to my doctor because he is a personal friend of the family. I am not sure if he would tell my parents everything. If you do recommend PEP - who can administrate that? Would Cedars-Sinai in Los Angeles be able to administrate it? That is the only hospital I have been to.

Thank you to TEK all the other individuals who put in the time to help out others.

[helpme2222]

all we can give you is advise on getting tested or not.now since it was unprotected wait 3 months to get a conclusive result.as far as tellong your girlfreind thats up to you.if you have sex with her wear a condom untill you get ur results.as far as the other guy its hard to trust people but since he called you and asked maybe he is not postive.but still on the safe side get tested in,3 months and use condoms

[meway]

No way in the world I can live 3 months without definitively knowing my status. What if I get him to test today and have him share his results with me? If he tests negative - Could my test in 3 months be positive? I know that he could be infected in the 3 month waiting period.

Thank you.

[Teak]

Yes he could, that is why you cannot obtain your conclusive test 3 months post exposure.

[meway]

I am really freaking out. What should I do? Would PEP be recommended or should I go talk to an HIV specialist? This is completely my fault, I knew better than to have unprotected sex. It was a heat of the moment thing, I couldn't control myself.

[Teak]

Discuss it with and HIV professional. Yes it is your fault no one will argue with you about that.