Am I infected with HIV?

[another_stupid_guy]

Hi,
I had protected sex with a black lady who was in her 20's. After I put on the condom, she gave BJ. I used the same condom while vaginal sex, it slipped two times and I put the same condom again. Although I didnt kiss her, I sucked her nipple.I didnt ejaculate.
Its been 4 days since the intercourse and I feel a little tired. I dont have any skin rash or any other symptoms related to HIV. I havent lost my apatite and not suffering from insomnia. But I am suffering from extreme anxiety and wondering if this is the cause for tiredness.
Am I infected?
Thank you.

[Chima7]

You didn't have a risk from anything you've described. Therefore, no matter what new symptoms you imagine in your head, none of them are related to HIV. You had no risk and therefore obviously nothing you've posted is HIV related.

If you're unable to accept that you were never exposed to HIV then your only course of action is to find a therapist with whom to discuss your obsession. There is nothing more that can be done for you on this forum.

[Sara_MHModerator]

The manner in which HIV is contracted has been listed earlier in this thread.  Adults transmit HIV through unprotected vaginal or anal sex and sharing of IV drug needles.  If the head of your penis was covered during intercourse, then you did not risk HIV.  Only you can know the answer to this.  If it was covered, you have no reason to test.  If not, then you can test with a DUO test at 28 days.  Symptoms are not used to diagnose HIV.  This should answer all of your questions and we are now closing this discussion.  We wish you the best of health.

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[AnxiousNoMore]

Only sex risks are unprotected anal or vaginal, If the head was protected all the time you can;t get HIV  so you have to figure that out.. If not you had an unquantifiable risk so need to do a 4th generation test after 28 days.
Oral and kissing isn't risk because either air or saliva can each inactivate it immediately.

[another_stupid_guy]

Its been 7 days since exposure, So can I get the test done now? Will the test turn out to be negative even if I have contradicted?

[AnxiousNoMore]

1. Reread the advice,
2. there is no "contradicted" issue.

[another_stupid_guy]

Thanks.
I guess "contradicted" is a wrong word
Sorry for my english.
The thing is, everday I feel more and more lethargic. I dont know if these are real symptoms or me being extremely anxious.
So, I was thinking if I could get a test done just for a peace of mind.

[AnxiousNoMore]

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Did the condom slip off your penis or just slid a bit and you pulled it back? Only the head needs protecting.

[another_stupid_guy]

It slipped :(

[AnxiousNoMore]

Be more specific in relation to my question about covering the head.

[another_stupid_guy]

Just FYI i'm not Circumcised. The head was covered through condom. But the whole condom slipped from penis two times during intercourse and Me being foolish used the same condom again.

[AnxiousNoMore]

?? "whole condom slipped from penis.. What specifically does that mean in relation to my last post?? See below also.

Again I need you to be specific in relation to the only question that matters and not get sidetracked with the irrelevant things like circumcision>>>>>Was the head completely covered throughout the intercourse?
Here is something important that you probably don't realize. >>>HIV is instantly inactivated in air so any touching of a used condom was touching inactivated HIV that cant infect you. Only inserting into a vagina or anal sex can infect because of the instant air inactivation feature of HIV.

[another_stupid_guy]

Sorry that I got side tracked and forgive me if I'm annoying you.
The head was completely covered. I'm sure of that.
Although during the intercourse, since its my first time, there was a bit of nervousness, anxiety and confusion. While having sex, the condom slipped inside her vagina and it was only after a few seconds she pushed me away and took out the condom that was inside her. I'm not sure if that was deep inside her or it was hanging outside, hence I cant be certain wheather or not the head touched her vagina as I said I was confused.

Forgive me for asking you. When you say "HIV is instantly inactivated in air". does that mean the virus get eliminated when it comes in contact with air and using a slipped condom again wont affect me?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Yes the air effectively kills it (although technically it is described as inactivated.)  That is why only the inside of the vagina can infect your penis and it has to be through the head  -  hence if the head is protected inside the vagina no HIV transmission can occur.

Nothing went wrong so you are safe and shouldn't waste your time thinking you were stupid.  

[another_stupid_guy]

Thanks man. From the bottom of my heart I thank you for giving me hope.

So, I can assume that the lethargic-ness which seems to be increasing gradually is just another diesease?  
Although its been 5 days since exposure, I feel tired and weak and sometimes mild body aches. But none of the symptoms have occured.
What am I supposed to make from that?

[AnxiousNoMore]

You said " But I am suffering from extreme anxiety and wondering if this is the cause for tiredness. "

So it could be psychosomatic because you think you are dying. That would wear anyone out.

[another_stupid_guy]

I guess I must have mistaken stomach upset to anxiety. I really cant tell the difference. But after you gave me hopes yesterday, I kinda felt alright..

But this morning, I Itched under my armpit and noticed that the skin was mild red. As if that wasnt enough, I also felt a kind of burning tinglisng sensation on my feet this afternoon. It lasted for an hour.

Should I be concerned?