Yesterday i had protected anal sex with male sex worker, should i get tested?

[Desmondwolfe]

Yesterday i had protected anal sex with a male sex worker. I was the reciever. I bled a bit also. Today i am going crazy with worry. Should i be? The worker looked healthy and got angry when i asked him today if he had a certificate showing he was hiv free. Is that a good sign or should i get tested?

[Sara_MHModerator]

Our members have pointed out to you correctly that protected sex is not a risk for HIV. They've answered you regarding testing already as well as testing being unnecessary for something that isn't a risk.  We wish you well and are closing this discussion.

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[GuitarRox]

You had protected anal sex, protected. So you did not risk HIV which I'm happy about for you.  You do not  need to test  for this sexual experience.  

[Desmondwolfe]

Thank you friend, its just i was so drunk i never saw if his condom worked. He says he is very profesional and cares about his life. I suppose i am paranoid because i bled a lot. Apart from blood and lube nothing else came out of my behind.

[Desmondwolfe]

A few days ago I wrote in the forum of a risk encounter with a transexual sex worker. We had protected anal sex, I was the bottom. I was unfortunately very drunk. I bled a lot, but remembered her cleaning me and changing the condom. The second condom looked intact but had nothing inside after she came. That is what worries me. I contacted her last night and she said that she didn't infact cum and lied about cuming as she was tired. So the lack of sperm was due to this and nit due to a breakage apparently?  I did not see a tear, is one obvious, should I believe her and do I need testing? Also if it is true why didn't she tell me originally to alay my fears.
Please help me if you can.

[AnxiousNoMore]

If a condom fails it rips down the seam and hangs in tatters so both of you would be well aware and start asking questions right then about the other's status. You are worried about nothing, and there is no need to test when you have zero risk. I wouldn't bother testing annually either, because it doesn't matter how many encounter times you multiple by zero the result is always still zero. Fear does not make disease so it is best to stop thinking with your imagination about this zero risk event and enjoy the reality of your HIV free life instead.

[Desmondwolfe]

Thank you, you and my mate have said more or less the same. Keep up the good work.

[Desmondwolfe]

Hi, i finally got a p24 eclia test done at 21 days. It was negative. My doctor said get tested at5 weeks, which is tomorrow. Is it woorth it or is the eclia conclusive? Thanks for your advice.

[Desmondwolfe]

Because of the doctor saying i needed further tests. Its conflicting advice. That is why, in all honesty.

[MaginDC]

Take a deep breath.  You used a condom, so you're fine.  But here's some general advice, and then some specific advice for your situation:

First, you should always ask about HIV status BEFORE having sex.  It's a good health habit to get into.  You can phrase it as, "I'm STD free and HIV negative, and I was tested last December.  How about you?"  It's  a good habit, and it will help alleviate this kind of anxiety.  

Second, you can't tell someone's HIV status by how healthy they look. That leads to inaccurate judgments about someone's health and can lead to unnecessary risky behavior.

Finally, since you used a condom, you have nothing to worry about.  Condoms protect from STIs.  Even if you had unprotected sex (which you didn't), and even if he was HIV positive (which he probably wasn't), the odds of you contracting HIV would be about 1/150 (HIV actually doesn't transmit as easily as some other STI's).  

If you're still nervous about it, my advice would be to ask him again in a more polite way.  ("I'm a little nervous because I don't usually do this, and I wonder if you wouldn't mind sharing your HIV status, so I can plan either way.  I was tested on this date, and I'm negative.   It would take a weight off my mind if you wouldn't mind letting me know.") I wouldn't demand to see some kind of certificate or imply that he has HIV (which he probably doesn't - sex workers, especially high-end ones, are actually good at protecting their health).

I would also schedule an HIV test as part of your regular check-up (which you should do anyway), and, given the fact that you used a condom, it will certainly come back negative.  

In general, ask about HIV status before sex, get tested regularly, and use a condom, and you can expect to have a fun sex life without needing to worry about HIV.

Hope that helps!

[Desmondwolfe]

Thank you so so much. I took your advice and talked with her/him again in a nice way. We had a great coversation.  She/he said he was a profesional who looks after her own health very seriouly. She explained about the use of condoms with me in detail last night. I was left very satisfied. Regarding the test i probaly wont do it. Me and my wife are doing fertlity treatment in 2 weeks and i don't want this paranoia looming. When i probly have nothing.
Once again thankyou for your useful kind words.

[MaginDC]

I'm glad it helped.  If you're still worried about it, and you don't want your personal physician to know what's going on, many public health clinics will do free anonymous HIV testing.  Your test will certainly come back negative, but it may put you at ease to know for sure.  In any case, good luck!

[Desmondwolfe]

Thank you friend. God bless you.

[Desmondwolfe]

Dear Dr,
I took your advice and discretely asked her hiv status and tests. She said she got tested two months ago and it was negative. Can things change in that amount of time?

[Desmondwolfe]

Hi, at risk from getting barred, I have one more question and would appreciate an answer. Yesterday I got back the P24 test I took on the 21st day after possible infection. It came back negative. Do I need to test again at the 6 week mark and 3 months ? Kindest regards.