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Dear Doctor,
On April 25th, 2008 I had a sexual encounter with a guy from Cancun Mexico, that I have known since December. I am from Canada.
We bought condoms, he put one on, and we had vaginal protected intercourse. He also inserted into my anus 2 times and both times I stopped it after like a minute. (I knew that I would get a UTI from this, but was too intoxicated to do anything at the moment; I did get a UTI and got it treated) Anyways when he finally pulled out of my vagina (I am not sure if he had ejaculated since he was pretty drunk; and I never asked him) I noticed that the condom was not on his penis. I immediately asked him where the condom was, he looked down and it was right by my vagina or may have been slightly inserted I don’t recall but he picked it up and moved it. My main reasoning here of what happened is that when he pulled out, the condom had slipped off. I saw some blood on the condom from which I assume was from when we had brief anal sex. The next morning I asked him what happened and he said the condom slipped off and that he checked it and it wasn’t broken. He is also uncircumcised; so I know this increases the risk.
Here are my questions:
1.What are the chances that a 20 year old male, who is from Mexico City and working in Cancun Mexico for the past 10 months, who most likely does not do any kind of drugs that involve needles, have HIV? Is Mexico a country that has a higher occurrence of HIV?
2.If he is HIV + what are my chances of getting it if the condom slipped off and some of his semen/pre-semen leaked inside me; especially since we had brief anal sex and I had some blood earlier. Could it have leaked into the anus or is it unlikely that semen that was exposed to air would still carry the virus?
I got tested for Chlamydia and gonorrhea and both came back negative. I also got a pap smear about 1 ½ months after the incident and it was normal; which I know is linked with HPV.
Thank you doctor
On April 25th, 2008 I had a sexual encounter with a guy from Cancun Mexico, that I have known since December. I am from Canada.
We bought condoms, he put one on, and we had vaginal protected intercourse. He also inserted into my anus 2 times and both times I stopped it after like a minute. (I knew that I would get a UTI from this, but was too intoxicated to do anything at the moment; I did get a UTI and got it treated) Anyways when he finally pulled out of my vagina (I am not sure if he had ejaculated since he was pretty drunk; and I never asked him) I noticed that the condom was not on his penis. I immediately asked him where the condom was, he looked down and it was right by my vagina or may have been slightly inserted I don’t recall but he picked it up and moved it. My main reasoning here of what happened is that when he pulled out, the condom had slipped off. I saw some blood on the condom from which I assume was from when we had brief anal sex. The next morning I asked him what happened and he said the condom slipped off and that he checked it and it wasn’t broken. He is also uncircumcised; so I know this increases the risk.
Here are my questions:
1.What are the chances that a 20 year old male, who is from Mexico City and working in Cancun Mexico for the past 10 months, who most likely does not do any kind of drugs that involve needles, have HIV? Is Mexico a country that has a higher occurrence of HIV?
2.If he is HIV + what are my chances of getting it if the condom slipped off and some of his semen/pre-semen leaked inside me; especially since we had brief anal sex and I had some blood earlier. Could it have leaked into the anus or is it unlikely that semen that was exposed to air would still carry the virus?
I got tested for Chlamydia and gonorrhea and both came back negative. I also got a pap smear about 1 ½ months after the incident and it was normal; which I know is linked with HPV.
Thank you doctor
Also, are condoms purchased in mexico as affective as US/Canada?
Thank you doctor once again for the confirmation. My anxiety is mainly due to the fact that I was intoxicated and not 100% sure at what point the condom was no longer on the penis. The fact that we engaged in anal sex, and the fact that this was with a person who lives in Cancun Mexico, has increased my anxiety significantly. With reference to my previous education on HIV as well as research through the internet, anal sex especially if it draws blood is seen as a high risk situation; and the fact that it was with a male from Mexico would most likely increase that risk.
I will get tested. I just want to make sure sufficient time has passed i.e. over 3 months ( It occurred April 25, 2008) so that I do not question the result.
I will get tested. I just want to make sure sufficient time has passed i.e. over 3 months ( It occurred April 25, 2008) so that I do not question the result.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
It wil come back negative. My guess is that the anxiety "cost" to you is substantial. You will be better off getting this out of the way. Again, the tet will be negative. EWH
I am just extremely anxious to get the test. If it comes back positive I don't know what I would do. I guess I am just waiting for a time when i could handle the possibility of a positive result; and right now completing my Masters and writing an exam in a month's time doesnt seem like a good time. I just wanted to calm my nerves in the meantime. But I will be getting the test soon. Thank you for all of your comments.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Worst case scenario, assuming no condom and rectal sex without it with a partner with advances HIV - 1 in 100 chance. Very unlikely however. On the other hand, as I've already said, why engage in this sort on debate? In many places over the course o fthe day as we've carried on this discussion, you coul dhave had a rapid HIV test and know for sure. Repeating myself, why not just get teted and know what's up. there is really no reason whatsoever no to get tested and many reasons to get tested. EWH
Last question. If we were to consider the riskiest situation ie. the condom fell off without me noticing and we engaged in brief unprotected anal sex what are the chances of transmision.
This is my last post. I want to thank you for your replies.
All the best
This is my last post. I want to thank you for your replies.
All the best
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