If it wasn't spilling blood in an obvious way, you can assume it wasn't "actively bleeding". But you were there, I was not. If you want 100% assurance that HIV trransmission could not have occurred, I cannot give it to you. But the odds are in the same range as being hit by lightning. Actually, they're not even that high. You seem to be determined to believe you are at risk, and it seems my advice isn't going to change your mind. But I encourage you to accept the reassurance I have tried to give and move on with your life.
Thanks Dr.Handsfield,
My concern was that if the toe was being rubbed by the shoe directly on the wound (in other words, the skin having come off), would it not then be classed as bleeding when I took the shoe off? If so, it may have been bleeding when it was inside the lady?
Welcome back to the forum.
The only injuries ever known to result in HIV infection are those in which the injury itself was caused by a sharp instrument contaminated with HIV infected blood or other body secretions. If there is a risk from pre-existing injuries, it probably requires a brand new, freshly bleeding lesion. Once bleeding stops and healing starts -- within a matter of hours -- it is likely that there is no measurable risk of HIV transmission.
Further, in the US and other industrialized countries, the large majority of female sex workers do not have HIV, and your partner probably did not.
So my judgment is that there was no HIV risk from the events described and no need for testing (or for any worry at all).
Regards-- HHH, MD