Girlfriend now has same symptoms

[Soberman90]

Well guys i'm here again, I've been trying to believe my rapid test result at 20 weeks and move on. But few weeks back i had unprotected sex with my girlfriend (biggest mistake) and now she's having every symptom i had (i'm still suffering from symptoms). Now i'm scared i infected her.
It's over 6 months now and i've been refused a PCR because the doctor says it can't be used for diagnostic purpose. I don't trust rapid tests anymore that's why i don't want to test with it. I'm not crazy i know i'm infected but unable to develop antibodies. I can't even live with the fact that i've infected my girlfriend.

[mike_no]

Your test at 20 weeks was conclusive and there is no need to doubt them whatsoever. I will tell you a fact, even if you were immunodeficient, which offcourse is absolutely unlikely, you would have tested positive at that juncture.

If your partner is exhibiting certain symptoms, please get her to see a GP, it is not HIV unless, you have acquired this virus to pass on to her from an another event that you are not telling us or she acquired it from unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse or shared needles to inject drugs intravenously with another HIV positive person.

Most importantly, symptoms are never used to diagnose HIV infection because some ARS symptoms resemble plenty of other microbial infection, including common cold.

My best guess is, you are overreacting, every thing is okay. I have 2 advice to give. For you, start working on acceptance; you are HIV negative. For her, see a GP.

[Soberman90]

I was in the process of healing and believing my results until now. Now i'm stuck in this deep hole of doubting the results.

[Chima7]

There's nothing more we can do here to help you. If you can't accept the fact that you do not have HIV then it's time to find counseling to help you overcome your guilt and irrational health anxiety.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

We strongly suggest seeking a professional counselor, as this forum is not able to provide support for anxiety.

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[GuitarRox]

Soberman, you can not get HIV from someone who doesn't have it.  JUST having unprotected sex isn't a risk for getting HIV.  You have to have unprotected sex with someone that is HIV+.  The person you  had sex with is your girlfriend.  Not an unknown person.  The risk of having unprotect with someone who is HIV - is ZERO.  I would have to look back at what your risk was 6 months ago that has you worried.  

[Soberman90]

I had a high risk exposure 7 months ago (unprotected vaginal) with someone of unknown status. I had every symptoms. I stopped testing at 20 weeks when i was told by guys here that my tests are conclusive. Only for me to have unprotected sex with my girlfriend, now she's having symptoms too.
You can take a quick look at my journal to get the full story

[GuitarRox]

If you had a negative test at 20 weeks, you are negative.  You are now moving into an position of being irrational about your health.  Why blame HIV is you have negative tests?  

[Chima7]

HIV does not appear out of nowhere. And you were never exposed yourself. You can't infect your girlfriend if you were never infected yourself.

[Soberman90]

I had unprotected sex with a girl about 7 months ago and had every symptom.

[GoingInsane45]

If you’re in the US, you can buy a PCR test yourself. But a 20 weeek rapid sure sounds convincing to me