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One drunken night of stupidity
I am aware that this is the "question that never dies." But you seem particularly helpful and so I'm going to ask the question anyway.
Two nights ago, I had a drunken sexual encounter with a stripper who was turning "extras" on the side.
This encounter entailed a blow job, and then the plan was to have sex but that plan (thankfully) failed to materialize.
I have interrogated the stripper post-encounter (for some lap dances and I was wearing a condom underneath). As with me, she insists on no kissing, no touching her vagina, no oral sex on her vagina, always uses condoms for oral, vaginal and anal sex.
She indicated to me that she was tested in December, and was clear. Who knows if that is true.
Anyhow, back to my scenario:
I received a blow job, it lasted about a minute. I had a condom on, which the stripper put on with her mouth but the condom broke in the final moments.
The stripper realized it broke, and I ejaculated outside of her mouth and on to myself mostly but somewhat on to her hand
This hand was used on occasion for her to play with her vagina, I think, but I don't believe that she put her finger in to her *****. She certainly did not the second time and just "tapped" the outside of her vagina
I went to the washroom and removed the broken condom
I did not check for blood, but this was mostly because I was drunk
I did pee
I washed my hands at the end
And I showered when I got home before going to bed
Today I have a headache and I feel tired with a sore throat and a cough. However, I had these symptoms for about a week or two beforehand and may be due to the weather. Not sure.
Other than suggesting I go for a test to ease my anxiety, is there a real risk here in your opinion?
Thank you for your time
Two nights ago, I had a drunken sexual encounter with a stripper who was turning "extras" on the side.
This encounter entailed a blow job, and then the plan was to have sex but that plan (thankfully) failed to materialize.
I have interrogated the stripper post-encounter (for some lap dances and I was wearing a condom underneath). As with me, she insists on no kissing, no touching her vagina, no oral sex on her vagina, always uses condoms for oral, vaginal and anal sex.
She indicated to me that she was tested in December, and was clear. Who knows if that is true.
Anyhow, back to my scenario:
I received a blow job, it lasted about a minute. I had a condom on, which the stripper put on with her mouth but the condom broke in the final moments.
The stripper realized it broke, and I ejaculated outside of her mouth and on to myself mostly but somewhat on to her hand
This hand was used on occasion for her to play with her vagina, I think, but I don't believe that she put her finger in to her *****. She certainly did not the second time and just "tapped" the outside of her vagina
I went to the washroom and removed the broken condom
I did not check for blood, but this was mostly because I was drunk
I did pee
I washed my hands at the end
And I showered when I got home before going to bed
Today I have a headache and I feel tired with a sore throat and a cough. However, I had these symptoms for about a week or two beforehand and may be due to the weather. Not sure.
Other than suggesting I go for a test to ease my anxiety, is there a real risk here in your opinion?
Thank you for your time
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
These are convoluted "what if" questions that show you are doing exactly what I advised you to avoid: overthinking it. Trust me on this: there are no facts, nothing you can ever think of, that would change the fact that the exposure you describe carried no risk for HIV. You came here for reassurance and I gave it, in no uncertain terms. Accept it or not, I don't care, but don't argue with it.
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I live in Canada, so testing is free - though, I'd rather not go through the tension if there's clearly no risk.
That she did not unroll the condom prior to placing it on my penis
This is the last thing I could think of in the whole affair.
The stripper took some of the lube I suppose from the condom and rubbed it on her vagina prior to applying the condom to me about 30 seconds or so later.
Is that condom dangerous in some fashion and puts me at enhanced risk or would you still say to forget testing?
The stripper took some of the lube I suppose from the condom and rubbed it on her vagina prior to applying the condom to me about 30 seconds or so later.
Is that condom dangerous in some fashion and puts me at enhanced risk or would you still say to forget testing?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
No, not with this sort of exposure. Don't overthink the situation, and try to avoid overreacting to a sexual exposure you regret. Deal with the emotional aspects of it as you need to, but stop worrying about medical consequences.
Hi - thank you for your response. Makes me feel a lot better, just one more point that I can think of. It appears I have a small abrasion on my penis.
These kinds of abrasions normally occur to me through masturbation, mostly because I don't use lube.
I am wondering if the presence of this abrasion, like a small burn, would increase my chance of contracting anything
These kinds of abrasions normally occur to me through masturbation, mostly because I don't use lube.
I am wondering if the presence of this abrasion, like a small burn, would increase my chance of contracting anything
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum.
You had safe sex. Even without a condom, many experts consider oral sex to be safe. It's certainly safe with respect to HIV, which is virtually never transmitted in the oral to genital direction; virtually zero risk for other STDs as well (e.g., hepatitis, HPV, HSV-2, chlamydia); and quite low risk for the remainder (gonorrhea, NGU, syphilis). Condoms work, so there was no transmission chance until it broke; and at that point your exposure to the sex worker's mouth was too brief to be a risk of anything. And of course hand-genital contact is entirely risk free.
Your headache, sore throat, and cough are a cold -- and obviously that problem started before the exposure.
I recommend against testing for HIV or any other STD on account of this event -- not even for anxiety relief. There simply is no chance you caught anything and I suggest you not waste your money. But if you insist, visit an STD clinic. Whatever you decide, please don't spend a few hundred dollaras on comprehensive STD testing through some online service. For those infections that have any chance whatsoever from this event, just have a urine test for gonorrhea (at any time) and blood tests for HIV and syphilis at 6 weeks. Nothing else.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
You had safe sex. Even without a condom, many experts consider oral sex to be safe. It's certainly safe with respect to HIV, which is virtually never transmitted in the oral to genital direction; virtually zero risk for other STDs as well (e.g., hepatitis, HPV, HSV-2, chlamydia); and quite low risk for the remainder (gonorrhea, NGU, syphilis). Condoms work, so there was no transmission chance until it broke; and at that point your exposure to the sex worker's mouth was too brief to be a risk of anything. And of course hand-genital contact is entirely risk free.
Your headache, sore throat, and cough are a cold -- and obviously that problem started before the exposure.
I recommend against testing for HIV or any other STD on account of this event -- not even for anxiety relief. There simply is no chance you caught anything and I suggest you not waste your money. But if you insist, visit an STD clinic. Whatever you decide, please don't spend a few hundred dollaras on comprehensive STD testing through some online service. For those infections that have any chance whatsoever from this event, just have a urine test for gonorrhea (at any time) and blood tests for HIV and syphilis at 6 weeks. Nothing else.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
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