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Question for Teak
Teak,
Hi, I hate to have to come here to post a question again but you see, my husband cheated on me again the other day with another woman he met online. This time, I'm not going to have sex with him again until he can get conclusive testing on all STDs including HIV. Fortunately, the last time I had sex with him was before this new fling so I'm not worried about being infected, however, I was so mad that I told him he had to test out to 6 months. I know you say 12/13 weeks is conclusive and I believe you, which is why I haven't restested since he got tested last week, 6 days past the 12 week mark and you said the Oraquick oral fluid test was conclusive at that time which is also what Dr. H has said. He hadn't been exposed ever since that one time so I believe the results were reliable. Well, here's my question, you said you've seen people test negative at 6 weeks that seroconverted by 12/13 weeks. Have you seen anyone test negative at 12 weeks that seroconverted at 6 months? If so, why has that happened and how often have you seen it happen? I understand that some that have tested positive at 6 months that were negative at 6 weeks just didn't test at 12/13 weeks and didn't know they seroconverted. At the free HIV clinic my husband got tested at, last week, they didn't even give him the counseling they said they would give prior to testing at their website, nor did they tell him to test out to 6 months, I don't know why. I also told my husband 6 months because I want to make sure all STDs are ruled out since this woman surely is of unknown status, unlike the first one who told him twice she was clean as proven by some testing she had done 2 weeks prior. This new fling was also unprotected vaginal. Dr. Bob at thebody.com tells patients to test out to 6 months if they were exposed to a known HIV positive person but over all he belives 3 months is conclusive. I'd appreciate your input on all this. Thanks.
Hi, I hate to have to come here to post a question again but you see, my husband cheated on me again the other day with another woman he met online. This time, I'm not going to have sex with him again until he can get conclusive testing on all STDs including HIV. Fortunately, the last time I had sex with him was before this new fling so I'm not worried about being infected, however, I was so mad that I told him he had to test out to 6 months. I know you say 12/13 weeks is conclusive and I believe you, which is why I haven't restested since he got tested last week, 6 days past the 12 week mark and you said the Oraquick oral fluid test was conclusive at that time which is also what Dr. H has said. He hadn't been exposed ever since that one time so I believe the results were reliable. Well, here's my question, you said you've seen people test negative at 6 weeks that seroconverted by 12/13 weeks. Have you seen anyone test negative at 12 weeks that seroconverted at 6 months? If so, why has that happened and how often have you seen it happen? I understand that some that have tested positive at 6 months that were negative at 6 weeks just didn't test at 12/13 weeks and didn't know they seroconverted. At the free HIV clinic my husband got tested at, last week, they didn't even give him the counseling they said they would give prior to testing at their website, nor did they tell him to test out to 6 months, I don't know why. I also told my husband 6 months because I want to make sure all STDs are ruled out since this woman surely is of unknown status, unlike the first one who told him twice she was clean as proven by some testing she had done 2 weeks prior. This new fling was also unprotected vaginal. Dr. Bob at thebody.com tells patients to test out to 6 months if they were exposed to a known HIV positive person but over all he belives 3 months is conclusive. I'd appreciate your input on all this. Thanks.
God bless you too. I was just worried about him, I know I'm clear since he definitely was last time.
All i can suggest to you is you distract yourself bigtime. i mean if you keep hovering around these websites, it will only aggravate your agony. You are in the clear and god bless nothing untoward is going to happen.
i had a very real risk (unprotected with a pro) and i am uncut.so i know what it means to know that i am at double the risk than a chopped one.
I will repeat what Dr H said. Your 6 week is highly reliable and it is unlikely to change.about your relationship, i guess thats something you shouldn't discuss online but work with your husband with a cousellr may be.
ihave a good feeling you wil be alright.
god bless
i had a very real risk (unprotected with a pro) and i am uncut.so i know what it means to know that i am at double the risk than a chopped one.
I will repeat what Dr H said. Your 6 week is highly reliable and it is unlikely to change.about your relationship, i guess thats something you shouldn't discuss online but work with your husband with a cousellr may be.
ihave a good feeling you wil be alright.
god bless
thanks Jaguar83. my husband knows he has a problem and now he's seeking help. freak, that is pretty scary, the very first time i read it really freaked me out cause i was stupid and let myself get exposed 3 months ago. the stats still put the odds in his favor. i recall reading that Dr. H said for uncircumcised people it reduces the odds to 1/1,000,000 to 1/500,000 if they initially test negative and that's still pretty low chance but statistics can't be completely trusted. My husband is not worried about HIV at all but I'm worried because if that's truly the case, that'll be a constant reminder of his unfaithfulness.
Sorry what i wanted to say was
"uncircumcised people are roughly at 53% higher risk than circumcized people for contracting HIV.This is according to what doctor H said and also from the papers i have read"
No the other way round like i mentioned before.
See..confusion and lack of memory is a side effect of 3 months of anxiety and depression
"uncircumcised people are roughly at 53% higher risk than circumcized people for contracting HIV.This is according to what doctor H said and also from the papers i have read"
No the other way round like i mentioned before.
See..confusion and lack of memory is a side effect of 3 months of anxiety and depression
Infidelity and the risk of STDs WHILE YOU ARE F'ING PREGNANT. He's really putting your through some shittiness, regardless of your impending negative results. You are a strong woman who will get through this.
when he cheated the first time and I thought he was infected I freaked out after reading that uncircumcised males are at higher risk! I knew a little bit about HIV before all this, like how it was transmitted but not this. I sure hope my husband tests negative again though.
I think you have got to take the arguements here with a pinch of salt, just like i do.
as teak or any doctor would tell you, 6 week is not conlcusive but a very very reliable indication of your status. You are in the clear anyway since you didn't have sex with you husband after his recent exposure.
Regardibng circumcission, circumcised people are roughly at 53% higher risk than uncircumcized people for contracting HIV.This is according to what doctor H said and also from the papers i have read.
cheers
as teak or any doctor would tell you, 6 week is not conlcusive but a very very reliable indication of your status. You are in the clear anyway since you didn't have sex with you husband after his recent exposure.
Regardibng circumcission, circumcised people are roughly at 53% higher risk than uncircumcized people for contracting HIV.This is according to what doctor H said and also from the papers i have read.
cheers
I now realize I can't take chances with HIV. I agree that seroconverting after 6 weeks is rare but the facft someone posted here that they tested negative at 6 wks but positive at 7 months proves it's not impossible. In my case, I only tested at 6 weeks but my husband tested at 12wks and 6 days and he was negative and I guess you'd agree neither of us have it judging by that, his new possible exposure was 6 days after that test . I'll still agree to get tested at the hospital though. Dr. H says the same thing about seroconverting after 12 weeks so I'll believe it. I can't stand how the CDC still sticks to 6 months, it's bad enough to have one's life on hold for 6-12 weeks.
Why are you trying to scare people all the time with your BS information?
Thats all your doing here is spreading fear into people for no reason, you need to get a life.
I understand that you have HIV and your mad at the world but you need to grow up.
Thats all your doing here is spreading fear into people for no reason, you need to get a life.
I understand that you have HIV and your mad at the world but you need to grow up.
You'll have to ignore xworriedx, he knows nothing about HIV, testing or it's transmission. If you would take time and read other threads the reason for testing longer than 3 months has been repeated several time.
"Teak has seen rare cases occur during his years as a paramedic, I thought I'd ask him"
This is why Teak should not be giving out information on this forum ..all he does is spread fear with his bullshit.
This is why Teak should not be giving out information on this forum ..all he does is spread fear with his bullshit.
that's why I'm not having sex with him at all until 12/13 weeks. as far as our marriage, we're gonna seek counseling within the next few months but my main reason for posting this message was because I wanted to know why some seroconvert by 6 months, so I can know what's the safest time for him to test.
If your husband is continuously having sex with multiple partners there is a chance he will get infected, no questions about it.
But that still sounds more like a "relationships" problem to me.
If you are concerned about it, don't have unprotected sex with him.
But that still sounds more like a "relationships" problem to me.
If you are concerned about it, don't have unprotected sex with him.
I'm concerned about my husband contracting HIV since he might have been exposed, and since Teak has seen rare cases occur during his years as a paramedic, I thought I'd ask him.
I really don't understand why you even bother coming to this forum.
HIV is not your problem.
There is a pregnancy forum, there is a relationships forum, there are others which are more appropriate if you wish to talk about your problems.
HIV is not your problem.
There is a pregnancy forum, there is a relationships forum, there are others which are more appropriate if you wish to talk about your problems.
Yeah, I know the chances are slim of him seroconverting at 12 weeks after 6 week neg. but I plan on nursing and I can't trake any chances. The first woman he had sex with 3 months ago reassured him she was clean and the test he took last week proved it, but now he cheated again and this woman's status is unknown, even if she doesn't have HIV she might have some other more common STDs. I'm just so mad and since I'm not just walking out yet since I can't make a drastic decision at this time, I have to draw the line somewhere.
Your husband had a NEGATIVE test at 6 weeks? ....He doesn't have HIV.
The chance the woman he had sex with had HIV in the first place would be slim to none. and even if she did have HIV the chance he got it from a one time act would be 1/2000.
You dont need to wait 3 months ....but if you will sleep better at night then go for it.
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The chance the woman he had sex with had HIV in the first place would be slim to none. and even if she did have HIV the chance he got it from a one time act would be 1/2000.
You dont need to wait 3 months ....but if you will sleep better at night then go for it.
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All I can say is that about those being uncircumcised have a higher risk due to the membrane and blood vessels under the hood. As to how many times greater risk, I have no idea.
Teak, I was told that by my OB, thanks and freak, I'm not worried about being infected anymore, like I said, the last time I had sex with my husband was just before he cheated on me so I'm not worried about being infected again, I just came out of that 3 month trauma as well and I'm not about to go through that again. All I can really say is that if my husband does it again, it's over. Teak, also, I've heard a couple of times that uncircumcised men are more at risk of contracting HIV, by how much? My husband happens to be uncircumcised.
You will be checked for HIV at your OBGYN and at the hospital unless you opt out of being tested.
I second teak there. Being some one who came out of the 3 month trauma just now, i totally feel your pain. But you have gotta get a hold of yourself and get through these 3 months. I am sure you will be OK. As u have already been told, get tested at 12/13 week including for all the other std's and move on.
Good luck
Good luck
Thanks, we're neither of those things. I'm considering that but since I'm 35 weeks pregnant, I can't make a drastic decision now. All I know is that I'm not going to put myself through 3 more months of anxiety. I'm going to make the decision some time at the end of this year since he's planning on joining the military.
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