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Losing my mind thinking i got HIV!
Hello,
I was just wondering if you could help me cool my nerves. I recently (4 weeks ago) had unprotected sex with my boyfriend of 1 yr. I know it was wrong, got caught up in the moment, etc. Anyways he lives in the caribbean and i live in the states. When i got back home i started hearing stories from people who know him there saying that before i knew him how he has aids and he was admitted into a mad house because he couldnt deal with it. I asked him about the stories, he refuses to talk about them. I asked him if there is any chance he could have aids he said no. I asked if he has ever taken a test, he said never. I asked him if i am the only girl he has ever had sex with w/o a condom he said No, that there was a girl before me and he never wore condoms while with her. They have a 2yr old together and im still hearing that he has been sneaking around with her still, sex without condoms. When she had the child, wouldnt the doctors have told her she had hiv or anything like that? Ok, im losing my mind! Neither one of them has ever taken a test! I remember before going to be with him last month i went to the doc and took a test, checked for std's the works and i proved to be ok. I remember asking him to do a test as well, he said it would cost $90 and he didnt have that kind of money and that he was healthy. Anywho now that im back home i have been reading up on the signs of hiv and i swear to god i have all of them! I don't know if i'm making myself crazy or what but my thoart is abit sore, a bit of a burning feeling, same with my tongue. I feel tired, i urinate often, i have a shakyness in my hands, lost of appetiate, i cant sleep, i have 2 small cuts inside my mouth, swollen lymp, when i move my neck left or right it hurts abit, i even have some serious stomach pains, so bad i had to go to the emergency walk in, its like a tight squeezing feeling, a bit crampish...the list goes on. I did a std test recently and it came back with nothing, i was relieved but they said to wait 3 months before doing a hiv test...i can't wait that long!!! Anyways my family doctor did a hiv test on me anyways but im afraid the test will show im negative if i am positive. I just need some piece of mind. I know i shouldnt have done it w/o a condom but i read somewhere that if i have a cut in the vagina or anywhere near there i can get the virus that way. I dont have any cuts down there! I asked him if he released inside of me he said yes, but im on the pills so i wasnt worried about pregnancy. Now im worried that his semen may be carrying hiv and it has been passed on to me. Whats scares me the most is that to this day i ask him to please go and get tested, he refuses and says its a waste of time he is healthy. I keep telling him he can feel healthy and has no signs but infact the virus could be inside. PLEASE HELP! I don't know what to do. I cant focus, i even took time off work because i can't focus on the job, this is all i think about and i just need some facts on what we did and based on our history if we both will be ok. I am still waiting on my test results for HIV and i know if its negative i will have to do a second one and im not looking forward to that. Any advice on what i can do? are these signs real and mean something or am i making myself go crazy? based on his history is there a chance he could have aids and since he never took a test doesnt know his status? Any info or advise you can give me would really help because im not to clear on how u can get hiv, i never thought about it and now here i am obsessed thinking i have it night and day!!!
I was just wondering if you could help me cool my nerves. I recently (4 weeks ago) had unprotected sex with my boyfriend of 1 yr. I know it was wrong, got caught up in the moment, etc. Anyways he lives in the caribbean and i live in the states. When i got back home i started hearing stories from people who know him there saying that before i knew him how he has aids and he was admitted into a mad house because he couldnt deal with it. I asked him about the stories, he refuses to talk about them. I asked him if there is any chance he could have aids he said no. I asked if he has ever taken a test, he said never. I asked him if i am the only girl he has ever had sex with w/o a condom he said No, that there was a girl before me and he never wore condoms while with her. They have a 2yr old together and im still hearing that he has been sneaking around with her still, sex without condoms. When she had the child, wouldnt the doctors have told her she had hiv or anything like that? Ok, im losing my mind! Neither one of them has ever taken a test! I remember before going to be with him last month i went to the doc and took a test, checked for std's the works and i proved to be ok. I remember asking him to do a test as well, he said it would cost $90 and he didnt have that kind of money and that he was healthy. Anywho now that im back home i have been reading up on the signs of hiv and i swear to god i have all of them! I don't know if i'm making myself crazy or what but my thoart is abit sore, a bit of a burning feeling, same with my tongue. I feel tired, i urinate often, i have a shakyness in my hands, lost of appetiate, i cant sleep, i have 2 small cuts inside my mouth, swollen lymp, when i move my neck left or right it hurts abit, i even have some serious stomach pains, so bad i had to go to the emergency walk in, its like a tight squeezing feeling, a bit crampish...the list goes on. I did a std test recently and it came back with nothing, i was relieved but they said to wait 3 months before doing a hiv test...i can't wait that long!!! Anyways my family doctor did a hiv test on me anyways but im afraid the test will show im negative if i am positive. I just need some piece of mind. I know i shouldnt have done it w/o a condom but i read somewhere that if i have a cut in the vagina or anywhere near there i can get the virus that way. I dont have any cuts down there! I asked him if he released inside of me he said yes, but im on the pills so i wasnt worried about pregnancy. Now im worried that his semen may be carrying hiv and it has been passed on to me. Whats scares me the most is that to this day i ask him to please go and get tested, he refuses and says its a waste of time he is healthy. I keep telling him he can feel healthy and has no signs but infact the virus could be inside. PLEASE HELP! I don't know what to do. I cant focus, i even took time off work because i can't focus on the job, this is all i think about and i just need some facts on what we did and based on our history if we both will be ok. I am still waiting on my test results for HIV and i know if its negative i will have to do a second one and im not looking forward to that. Any advice on what i can do? are these signs real and mean something or am i making myself go crazy? based on his history is there a chance he could have aids and since he never took a test doesnt know his status? Any info or advise you can give me would really help because im not to clear on how u can get hiv, i never thought about it and now here i am obsessed thinking i have it night and day!!!
girl i feel you, I'm in sort of the same situation and its been 4 weeks for me too. About 34 days today. I took an hiv test on friday, came up negative dr. hook said i should be fine being that most tests come back positive in that time frame. I have to take another one in three months and i am scared. everyday i feel the symptoms, well just the rash, i start to itch everywhere when i'm panicking. I hope God forgives me for the mistake I did. i have been praying and have so much faith. All I can say to u is pray...I'll pray or you too.
You could have left aout half of the drama. You did put yourself at risk. You need to test out to 3 months post exposure to obtain a conclusive negative result.
Thank you girl, i am a witness that prayer changes things so thank you much. Congrats on a negative hiv test, i would be screaming for joy right about now!
see how much i have on my mind? i couldnt even leave out the drama man. I know i put myself at BIG RISK! thats why im losing my mind cuz no matter how i think i keep thinking bases on the situation and his history and his beahaviour it could be that he has hiv and he's scared to talk about it or was afraid to tell me. But that's just wrong to put my life at risk by not telin me. Im gonna wait the 3 months and do a test, i might not even do it because i know i can't live with hearing "you are hiv positive" i would run out in the street right then and there. Gosh, im losing it again!!!
i feel the same way, right now I just called my boyfriend to tell him that we need to break up. I cheated on him because i felt like we were gonna break up anyway. we were having problems. anyway the condom broke and I am freaking out. I know i'm not pregnant but I am scared of this HIV Sh**. I called him at work and said we need to talk and that is best to break up. I am so ashamed and the worst is yet to come, a big fight, and then waiting three months , is gonna really stress me out. I just feel so bad for my kids if I do have HIV. I dont know what i'm gonna do.
hey girl, i know the feeling. most of us have got caught up in the moment and truly regret it. its life and it happens but if your results come back fine after 3 months, then from now on be careful and practice safe sex!
could any1 please help me out, im goin crazy. i need somes advice right now.
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yea if my results are negative i am turning into a nun!!! I cant deal with stress like this man, im gonna lock off sex for like a year or something cuz even if i do it with a condom i still think some messed up ish so i dunno man
momonie, desperateone can we have a woman's support group! lol we are all experiencing the same anxiety lol
and sressed123! lol
anyways, i got my results back today and im NEGATIVE for everything! I feel good yet i still feel iffy like i have something. Reason is cuz i took the test 4 wks after unprotected sex and everyone said i should wait 6 wks or 3 months so i dunno. Its still good to know the results came back negative but now i have to take another test. My doc says i dont have to its up to me because 4wks is good enough to see if i was infected. If im not, whats all these weird signs and sick feelings i;ve been having? Im so stresseddddddd...i dont know if i will take thest test again, i feel good lingering on this NEGATIVE results for now....
Get your conclusive test at 3 months post exposure.
Great...so i gotta do another one...*sighs* so u saying this test i just took proves nothings?
It's extremely promising, and it's EXTREMELY rare for a test result to change from a positive to a negative after 4 weeks. At least 90% of positives will have turned positive by now. Combine that with the chance you got HIV if he DID have it and the chances he actually had it puts you at .0000001 chance of having HIV. That's 1 in 10 MILLION. I doubt you're that lucky.
sorry...not enough sleep last night...that's "...change from a negative to a positive...".
And the last sentence should probably read "I doubt you're that UNlucky"
And the last sentence should probably read "I doubt you're that UNlucky"
The only way to get a conclusive negative result is to test at 3 months post exposure. There are NO tests approved to give one a conclusive negative result any earlier.
The manufactures labels all say three months and CDC guidelines say three months. Get your facts straight if you are going to give people advice.
My facts are straight... That's what I was saying..Their guidelines all say 3 months... If it really took 3 months..they would say 6 months.. Read and comprehend before you reply.
Like I said get your facts straight when advising people.
Read and comprehend before you reply...Nothing I said was false. The truth is that if it REALLY took HIV 3 months to show up...It wouldn't say 3 months...They would say longer...That's just the way Government and big corporations work to cover their ***** etc... If you can't see that or believe that.. I feel sorry that you've been blinded.
Oh so now your a conspiracy theorist? Just keep with the facts on this forum and not your opinions.
It has nothing to do with conspiracy theory. That's the way companies work and there's nothing wrong with it. I feel sorry you're so nieve to believe everything written on manufacturer's labels.
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So now you have decided that you are more educated than the manufactures and the FDA on there tests? Thanks for the laugh.
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