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Oral sex with another man! Argh!?

Hi all - thank you in advance for your comments.

So back in late January or early February I performed oral sex on another male. (HIV status unknown) There was no ejaculation but of course the possibility of precum. His penis was discolored a little - looked like Vidaligo(spelling?) Mid February to mid March I had horrible stomach issues - diarrhea mostly - the doctors couldn't find anything wrong with me after extensive testing. I forgot about it and everything went away. In mid April I had another oral sex encounter this time there was ejaculation (HIV status unknown) which I spit out. Didn't think much about that event until.... My wife started having diarrhea about 5 weeks ago which lasted for a week and a half or so. Now she has horrible hemorroids and her period is now heavier that ever before. Very very heavy. This is her first period after our baby was born. I've had 2 HIV Oraquick Advanced tests done. 1 on May 31st and one on June 14th - both were nonreactive - I swear that I have swollen lymph nodes but it could just be my anxiety and guilt leaking in. I've lost weight due to not eating as much, tired, dizzy....blah blah blah. Do i need to get further testing in your opinions?
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Dispicable? If only things in life were that simple Honest. You aparently are some sort of a robot immune to all impulses and make the right decision all the time. What a hero you are to all of us. I've since received help for the bad decision I made and luckily for all involved no one was hurt.

Let me give you something to think about saint Honest. A family is driving down the road, a car pulls sharply in front of them, "Dad" is driving and reacts by beeping his horn and flipping the other driver the finger along with a few swear words. The other driver slams on his brakes, gets out of the car and shoots the family dead. A man is much more likely to put his family at risk by flipping the bird to another man than by sucking his c**k.

And thanks for your thoughtful, insightful and helpful comments. You're just the type of person we need here on this forum.
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If you are going to participate in any form of sex with another man then you should either ensure that barrier protection is worn or end your marriage with your wife before you destroy her life by giving her HIV and leaving your child without its mother.  You are a dispicable individual to participate in such risky behaviours while you have a wife and baby, if you care so little for your own life then so be it, but your wife's life is being risked here too!  How do you live with yourself!!
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Yes, I wouldn't have tested in the first place.
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Thanks Teak - Just want to make sure that your comment "you negative" includes the April encounter as well and the fact that I may have had a small ulcer during that encounter which I didn't mention before - though the guy really didn't *** much at all.....babbeling!!....Us poor poor anxiety ridden people....Anxiety is a horrible horrible disease!!
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No, you don't need further testing. You negative..
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