Hi Doctors,
I keep trying to tell myself everything's going to be okay, but I'm so scared that I've ruined my life with one slip-up. I'm literally terrified.
I'm a woman and I've been sexually inactive for the past 18 months, and my last test for HIV was negative. I've only ever had unprotected sex with one man - my long-term boyfriend at the time.
Then, 2 1/2 weeks ago, I had unprotected vaginal and oral sex (giving and recieving) with a man of undetermined HIV status. He didn't ejaculate, but there was pre-***. Also, I had been waxed that day, and had finished my period a few days earlier.
We are both of Western origin, but travel a lot for work around the world. He is known for being promiscuous with women, but not for i/v drug use, bisexuality or as far as I know, sex with prostitutes. I tried to slow things down to use a condom, but there was alcohol involved, and he didn't seem to care. I did manage to stop things, as I said above, before he came inside of me.
We know a lot of people in common, and I've heard nothing to indicate he is HIV positive. But his lack of concern about condom use, his rep as a ladies' man, and the fact that he lives in Asia and travels a lot have me convinced I might as well have slept with a bisexual drug user.
Also, I took Plan B as emergency contraception the day after the event, and got my period early a week after that. But then I also got a vaginal yeast infection towards the end of my period - compounding my fears.
He and I are both now working in different countries, and I haven't been able to/am scared to ask him about his status.
I know your answer won't change anything - but how at risk am I? And how early can I be tested with any degree of certainty? the idea of waiting 6 weeks, never mind 3 months seems like a lifetime.
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.