Risk Analysis

[Carter21]

Doctors:

I asked this question earlier, but it was misunderstood and I'm unsure how the policy is for asking followup questions so I have chosen to pay and post again.  Essentially, I conveyed that I had received unprotected oral sex and engaged in mutual masturbation.  At one point, my partner was on top of me for a period of 15-30 seconds in which I am very worried my penis could have made contact with his anus.  He told me that my penis did not in and that I would be able to tell if it did and that it cant simply fall in, but of course my mind and heart and racing.  Additionally, I am also worried about exposure to semen and presemen fluid that was on the sheets while I was in engaging in these acts.

Please address this topic.  You both are experts and your advise is appreciated.   I need to know if I am at risk and if an HIV test is necessary.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Nursegirl is correct in every way (thanks nursegirl).  You question was addressed and indeed you could have simply waited for the reply the was provided.  We do not man this site 24/7 and sometimes patience is prudent.

As I said before, your expsoure was NO RISK.  There is no risk to mutual masturbation.  It is safe sex.  That means, to be 100% concrete about things, that HIV is not spread in this way.  As I said earlier, HIV is spread through penetrative sex, not having sour partners penis (or genitals) in the area.  Penetration is not something that goes unnoticed either , if it were, sex would be far less interesting, wouldn''t it.

As far as having genital secretions on the sheets, again, as said before, it is a normal part of mutual masturbation for genital secretions to get onto a partner's skin or the bed sheets and then onto the skin.  HIV has never been transmitted in this way (nor by toilet sheets, door knobs, drinking glasses, etc).  Inanimate objects contaminated with genital secretions really do not play a meaningful part in HIV transmission (there are a few, theoretical exceptions, none of which are even close to the circumstance you describe).

So, once again, as said before, this was a no risk exposure with no need for further testing.  Any further comments or reasonable questions should be made as part of follow-up to your original post where you will see the same message.  EWH

[nursegirl6572]

Your question was not misunderstood in any way.....you were told that without a shadow of a doubt you were not at risk and did not require testing.

It does not matter WHOSE penis was near the other partner's rectum.  That does not constitute penetrative intercourse, which is why it is not a risky behavior.

You are very clearly dealing with some kind of guilt over this experience due to it being your first homosexual encounter.  Quit over-thinking, and don't start "what iffing".  You did not have a risk, period, and you certainly did not need to post a new question.  There are actually limits on how many you can post in a 6 month period...I believe it is 2...the good doctor will surely clarify that for you.  You asked your follow up question with your first question, which was appropriate, but it seems that you grew impatient because you did not get a response quick enough.  I'm sure you can appreciate that this isn't an "instant message" type system, and the doctors are very busy.  They answer very promptly as it is.

PLEASE please please take what the knowledgeable docs here have to say to the bank.  You are 100% fine....no need for testing.

(Sorry to interject, Docs...sometimes it is hard to keep the fingers tied to the chair!)