Worried about M4M Massage encounter

[shyalfirst]

1) First I showered and he gave me a towel that he said was clean but I did not check if it was free from body fluids. I used the towel to dry my body and face.  I have pimples all over body 2)He had me lay down on a massage table with sheets that I am not sure were clean or free of others bodily fluids. 3)  I believe he stroked his penis before starting the massage.If he had precum in his hands before starting the massage it might have spread all over my body and face and could have gotten into a popped pimple since he was doing the massage really hard.4)He uses massage cream in a jar that he doubled dips.  I'm scarred that other people's body fluids were in the massage cream since he double dips for other clients before me and uses the same cream jar.  He used this cream all over my body and face.5) I also held his penis in both of my hands for a few minutes during the massage.I have small skin abrasions around my cuticles and worry that if he had precum on his penis I might have gotten infected 6)He also used hot stones on my back and body which I don't know if he washed before me which also has me scarred since he used it over my back, body and face which has a lot of pimples.Could I have gotten hiv from hot stones that possibly might have others body fluids and might have irritated or popped my pimples or cuticle abrasions?7) At the end of the massage he stroked himself. I don't know if he had precum in his hands and massaged me a little bit more and then proceeded to give a hand job.  I am worried that if he had precum it might have come in contact with my penis when he was giving me the hand job.  I ejaculated but he did not.8)He gave me a tissue to clean myself and it was a little wet and I didn't know where it came from.  If used by someone else could I have gotten hiv when it came in contact with my penis? 9)I also have a small dry cut that was already scabed in my leg before I went for the massage.Should I get tested immediately with the stuff above?

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to the Forum.  I'm pleased to tell you that nothing in the events that you have described could have conceivably put you at any risk for HIV, even if the masseuse had HIV and it is unlikely that this is the case.  HIV is spread ONLY by penetrative genital or ano-genital sexual contact or introduction of infected material deep into tissue.  It is not spread by touching, by mutual masturbation even when persons get each others' genital secretions on one another or from kissing of any sort.  There are no instances in which HIV has been spread from person to person on inanimate objects such towels, sheets or tissues.  Similarly, there are no instance in which HIV has been spread through contact with massage oil or lotions.

Thus, the events you describe are no risk for HIV and are nothing to worry about.  I hope  that you find my comments helpful  There is no need to worry, no need to test and no need to worry about contact with others.  EWH

[Edward W Hook, MD]

No risk of other STDs either, including herpes.  

The lesions of herpes typically appear within two weeks of exposure if they are going to occur.  eWH

[shyalfirst]

I have one last question.  Do I need to get tested for any other STDs with the situation mentioned above especially herpes?  If you are exposed to herpes how long before symptoms start?  The person I was with did not have any lesions that I saw during the encounter.  Thank you so much for your help.  I greatly appreciate your help!!!

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Fingering is a form of masturbation.  There is no risk of HIV from masturbatin of any sort, including this.  This is the case even if he had a cut on one of his fingers- still NO RISK!.  Take care.  EWH

[shyalfirst]

Ok I remembered one last question.  This I promise is the last question.  If I got fingered in my anus and he had a cut on his fingers is there any risk?  Also during the massage as well if he had a cut in any of his fingers is there any risk?  Should I get tested any of that?  Thank you so so much!!!!  This I promise are the last questions!

[shyalfirst]

Thank you Dr. Hook!  I have one last question I promise.  If I got fingered in my anus during the massage is there any risk for hiv?  Do I need to test since there might have been precum mixed with the massage oil?  Thank you!!!  Promise last question!!!!