Sorry it was needed, take care. EWH
Thank you very much for your assessment of my risk and your advice. I appreciate it greatly!
I'm sorry to hear of your problems and understand how media attention and "scare-based" "education" can promote such concerns. I hope that I can provide some information that will be helpful to you. The punch line to what I am about to say is that your risk is very, very low- so low that I do not recommend repeat HIV testing at this time. Let me tell you why.
Let's start by trying to put this into perspective an overall. There are over 300 million people living in the United Stated of whom 1 million have HIV. Thus, on the basis of this fact alone your chances of having HIV are less than 3 in 1000. Then, realizing that infections are more common among men who have sex with other men, drug users and minorities, the chances that your partner was infected are still lower. Then, your odds of getting HIV, IF HE WAS INFECTED, are less than 1 in 1000 exposures. Given that by being in the military, your ex is regularly tested for HIV, as well as the absence of other risk factors, his likelihood of being infected are far lower than average. Thus, your odds of infection, based on his risk for infection are far lower than average. Clearly, the odds are in your favor.
Now add to that the fact that you had an HIV test five weeks after your last exposure and your likelihood of being infected approach zero. I say this because at five weeks post exposure close to 90% of HIV tests that are going to be positive following exposure will already be. When you combine this with your overall low probability that he is infected, you are far more likely to be hit by lightening in the next day or two than to have HIV from the situation you describe. For this reason I would argue that you do not need further HIV testing.
I hope this helps. EWH